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Old 07-13-2019, 08:02 AM
 
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OP, here's the reality...

A super hot college girl likes you. At the end of the day, who cares why? Seriously. Go for it. You probably won't ever have this type of opportunity again.
Except she doesn't like him. She's just messing with him. Her interest isn't sincere. There's nothing to go for. She'd just jerk him around. At least he has his self-respect, by not allowing her to do that.
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Old 07-13-2019, 01:21 PM
 
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OP, here's the reality...

A super hot college girl likes you. At the end of the day, who cares why? Seriously. Go for it. You probably won't ever have this type of opportunity again.
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Except she doesn't like him. She's just messing with him. Her interest isn't sincere. There's nothing to go for. She'd just jerk him around. At least he has his self-respect, by not allowing her to do that.
You don't know that. And there's really nothing to support your theory.
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Old 07-13-2019, 01:29 PM
 
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You don't know that. And there's really nothing to support your theory.
Her hot/cold behavior is one indicator.I've already explained why I believe she's not sincerely into him, in previous posts.
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Old 07-13-2019, 02:11 PM
 
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Her hot/cold behavior is one indicator.I've already explained why I believe she's not sincerely into him, in previous posts.
And you're still just guessing based on a stereotype.

You say he'll keep his self-respect if he brushes her off.

I say he'll lose his self-respect if he doesn't give it a shot.
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Old 07-13-2019, 02:46 PM
 
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Prediction: in a couple of weeks OP will post a thread asking why this young woman hates him with a passion now and yet he's done nothing aside from mind his business, avoid her, and engage in fun banter with other young women in class.

Only he can confirm what's really going on here by observing the situation.
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Old 07-13-2019, 02:53 PM
 
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Prediction: in a couple of weeks OP will post a thread asking why this young woman hates him with a passion now and yet he's done nothing aside from mind his business, avoid her, and engage in fun banter with other young women in class.

Only he can confirm what's really going on here by observing the situation.
Well he’s a “new guy”. If he comes back next week wanting to know if a girl likes him, but too constipated to find out bc it might hurt...he may have a new name.
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Old 07-13-2019, 05:55 PM
 
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Stay away from women who get tons of male attention.
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Old 07-13-2019, 06:45 PM
 
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Just ask her out.
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Old 07-14-2019, 09:58 AM
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Whatever is going on here, one thing is clear: the OP gains nothing by brushing her off.
He could be dodging a bullet.

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OP, here's the reality...

A super hot college girl likes you. At the end of the day, who cares why? Seriously. Go for it. You probably won't ever have this type of opportunity again.
Why is it a reality that he probably won't ever have this type of opportunity again?

And why should a guy's frame of reference be as primitive as hot college chick, just go for it. To whatever extent he's putting his self-preservation first (especially in a college atmosphere that probably presumes him guilty of toxic masculinity), he's absolutely correct to protect himself.

If he's looking for a relationship, I'm sure there are plenty of attractive women in his area who aren't students at his college.

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Old 07-14-2019, 11:02 AM
 
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He could be dodging a bullet.
That could be said about any situation.

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Why is it a reality that he probably won't ever have this type of opportunity again?
Because that's how life generally works.

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And why should a guy's frame of reference be as primitive as hot college chick, just go for it. To whatever extent he's putting his self-preservation first (especially in a college atmosphere that probably presumes him guilty of toxic masculinity), he's absolutely correct to protect himself.
I think you misinterpreted my "go for it" comment. He likes her and (despite what Ruth believes) she likes him. Why on earth would he walk away? Why??

And now you seem to be suggesting she might pull a fake #metoo on him and ruin his life.

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If he's looking for a relationship, I'm sure there are plenty of attractive women in his area who aren't students at his college.
I'm sorry, Lou, but this makes no sense at all to me. Please explain why you think that would be a better option.
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