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Old 07-17-2019, 07:04 PM
 
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Wow. Thatís some BS. Donít let him manipulate you like that. He has issues.
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Old 07-17-2019, 08:13 PM
 
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I went to my therapist today who said its aspbergers, he can't change but I can. That his 'list' (however practical) is a aspbergers thing
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Old 07-18-2019, 01:01 AM
 
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Such a whirlwind. It's like...lets do this together and cuddles and laughter and the first thing I saw today when I reopened my computer was the last paragraph of a email he sent to me the few days before we reconciled..

"I love you, nothing is going to change that. It hurts too much to be with you and I'm not happy in a
relationship with you. The potential for change is in all of us. I don't know if you can be the person I
hope but if you accomplish that in the future, I'm willing to give us a shot again. That being said, I'm
not getting married again, so it would just be a partnership if we got back together. Hopefully that
gives you a clear answer and helps you decide what you want."

How can he say that and then tell me I am still the person he wants to grow old with? Why is this all me? Why do I have to be 'the' person he hopes for? Shouldn't I already be the love of his life for reasons that make me, me? You know? I can only be the best me I can be. My therapist seemed to get it.. the discombobulated stew that makes a human being their own person. I think she put it like "here's the issues one has, everyone has. Sometimes it's too much, sometimes it's complicated, overwhelming, maybe even flat wrong..but it is still THAT person. That, being key word. He says he hopes for you to change. Hopes for YOU, why hope? I don't think he's processed 'why' he hopes for you in the future even though he feels it, and that is likely due to being on the spectrum, otherwise he wouldn't be divorcing you. "
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Old 07-20-2019, 06:53 AM
 
Location: Richardson, TX
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ďIím not happy in a relationship with youĒ is the only important part of the letter.
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