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Old 07-11-2019, 12:17 PM
 
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OP you probably need a reality check. If you can't get a date with the women you find attractive then that should tell you something, maybe you are not on their level.
So levels are only about looks?

I’d rather be alone then with someone I’m not attracted to at all who’s “on my level”

I can’t control who I’m attracted to

 
Old 07-11-2019, 12:19 PM
 
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What are you talking about? This didnít help my self esteem I did it to see if i found other things attractive about her that would make me attracted to her but it didnt work.

Guys who canít get dates get killed here for having too high a standards or shooting out of their league then if you lower it and it doesnít work youíre getting on me for it . You canít win.
Dance monkey dance...
Com'on

No one is signing up to be in your social experiment.
 
Old 07-11-2019, 12:20 PM
 
Location: USA
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So you are shallow, at least you know this going forward. Nothing wrong with it.
He's being honest. If that is shallow, then 99% of people are shallow. You can't FORCE yourself to be physically attracted to someone, and the vast majority of people I know are like that. Like it or not looks matter.
 
Old 07-11-2019, 12:20 PM
 
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I don't when people say "they can't get dates" I feel they're just not trying hard enough, or they're looking in the wrong places. Are you making an effort to meet people? Just putting a profile up on OLD and not getting any messages doesn't automatically mean you can't get dates, it could be something in your profile that's putting people off.
I'd say more likely looking in the wrong places. And probably trying too hard. Because I'm not "trying hard" to get a date and I'm doing just fine.

I myself am not even on OLD (and I've heard a couple of times on here that not that many women are into online dating). I agree that not getting any message on OLD doesn't automatically mean inability to get dates.
 
Old 07-11-2019, 12:23 PM
 
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So why not say, "let's be friends."

Let's face it, we all know there are some "heck no" people for us. That is not being shallow it is being real.

BUT

What you have done is boost your own self-esteem by getting a woman to be into you when you have no interest in her and that is a la'douche move.


Sound kinda like you are struggling with dating.
 
Old 07-11-2019, 12:23 PM
 
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Dance monkey dance...
Com'on

No one is signing up to be in your social experiment.
You really woke up on the wrong side of the pillow huh?

You need a hug or something. Why so abrasive?
 
Old 07-11-2019, 12:24 PM
 
Location: USA
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I've tried dating outside my preference "zone" and it has never gone well.


We like what we like.
The Hippies with their Birkenstocks driving Subarus on the "turnpike getting to you?
 
Old 07-11-2019, 12:28 PM
 
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You really woke up on the wrong side of the pillow huh?

You need a hug or something. Why so abrasive?
Ignore the haters. You gave something a chance. It didn't work out for you. People do it all the time. They give someone or something a chance in order to see if there could be something they like. I've done it myself and found something to like...but it still didn't work out.

It's not like you murdered someone.
 
Old 07-11-2019, 12:34 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Guys who canít get dates get killed here for having too high a standards or shooting out of their league then if you lower it and it doesnít work youíre getting on me for it . You canít win.
Stop trying to win.

You tried. Went out of your comfort zone. That's all that matters. No conclusions to be drawn here. It didn't happen with this woman but it could happen with another.

You never know.
 
Old 07-11-2019, 12:38 PM
 
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Stop trying to win.

You tried. Went out of your comfort zone. That's all that matters. No conclusions to be drawn here. It didn't happen with this woman but it could happen with another.

You never know.
The conclusion is I know how attraction works for me.

If there’s zero physical attraction that’s not gonna work for me.
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