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Old 07-11-2019, 01:30 PM
 
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Originally Posted by fleetiebelle View Post
How was it a failure, though? You went on a date, which is good. You learned about what your priorities in a partner are, which is also good. You were up front enough to not string her along for another date, which is good. Don't frame what happened as success or failure. Onward and upward.
Not this date in general but the fact it took years for me to get one message from someone Iím not even attracted to.

Doesnít bode well for me.

 
Old 07-11-2019, 01:31 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Well Iím the common denominator in my failures so of course Iím gonna be hard on myself about it.
This wasn't a failure.
 
Old 07-11-2019, 01:38 PM
 
Location: Boulder, CO
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Old 07-11-2019, 01:59 PM
 
Location: Kansas City North
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I agree, this date was NOT a failure. Your date thought it was nice enough she wanted to go on another one. The fact that YOU donít want to take her out again Has nothing to do with the ďqualityĒ of the date itself.

Had this woman been an 11 on a 10 point scale, would you go out with her again? If no, then THAT would have been a failure.

I give you credit for trying. Kind of like spinach or canned peas. You were pretty sure you didnít like them, but tried again just to make sure, since you hadnít had any for a while. You still donít like them. Next time you wonít even put them on your plate.
 
Old 07-11-2019, 02:11 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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I implore you, to figure out how these butt ugly broke dudes get with attractive women and you’ll get more dates.
 
Old 07-11-2019, 02:12 PM
 
Location: SoCal again
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Stop trying to win.

You tried. Went out of your comfort zone. That's all that matters. No conclusions to be drawn here. It didn't happen with this woman but it could happen with another.

You never know.
yes, keep trying!

I went out with guys I was not immediately attracted to and slowly fell in love. Or even instantly because he had a huge personality but did not look like a person I would usually go for at all. Personality can make you look past looks. I am glad you tried at least!
 
Old 07-11-2019, 02:13 PM
 
Location: Arlington, VA and Washington, DC
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I implore you, to figure out how these butt ugly broke dudes get with attractive women and youíll get more dates.
Hmm? Maybe it is just living in super fake DC but I never see ugly dudes with attractive women here.
 
Old 07-11-2019, 02:17 PM
 
Location: SoCal again
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Hmm? Maybe it is just living in super fake DC but I never see ugly dudes with attractive women here.
I see it all the time. And ugly women with attractive guys also.
 
Old 07-11-2019, 02:19 PM
 
Location: In a place beyond human comprehension
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Let's remember, ugly and attractive are subjective. One person's ugly may be another person's yummy.
 
Old 07-11-2019, 02:20 PM
 
Location: Texas
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yes, keep trying!

I went out with guys I was not immediately attracted to and slowly fell in love. Or even instantly because he had a huge personality but did not look like a person I would usually go for at all. Personality can make you look past looks. I am glad you tried at least!
I think more for women, you can slowly win over with personality. Have several female friends this happened to.

No male friends this has happened to...unless it was their wives liking their personality.
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