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Old 07-12-2019, 11:28 AM
 
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A facebook friend of mine openly rants about women rejecting him online because he is short.

He's one of those people who posts his whole life on Facebook. Sometimes when he complains about women rejecting him because he's short, he has almost no basis for saying so. Other times he does.

The thing is he actually does pretty well with women (obviously he posts that too). So either they don't care or don't know.

So much for women's impeccable intuition for the angry, short guy...
Even the angry bagel guy had a wife( though he had to go to Indonesia)and on a podcast said he does hook up with women once in awhile

He and people like him are obviously just mentally ill

 
Old 07-12-2019, 11:30 AM
 
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Just make sure that's really true.

Because you could wake up one day soon and be 68 years old and never had a girlfriend or sex, and ... will you be OK with that?

Believe me, it's much more likely to happen than some people think. I know at least 3 guys who are well into their 40s and have never had sex or a girlfriend. And it's not going to get any easier for them.
Personally, I would rather have experienced that, even if it wasn't ideal in certain aspects.

You may also want to consider compartmentalizing.

You could have a very close platonic friend that you do couple type things with, such as hiking, going to restaurants, and trips. If the lady also is in a similar spot in which she cannot find anybody, then it may work out.

You can fulfill your sexual needs via porn or paying for sex, or however you are doing it now.
Nah I know what Iím capable of. Thereís women I know thereís no way I can get it up for because Iím turned off by their appearance.

Iíd rather masturbate or pay for sex then have that type of sex just to be in a relationship.
 
Old 07-12-2019, 03:56 PM
 
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Originally Posted by jobaba View Post
A facebook friend of mine openly rants about women rejecting him online because he is short.

He's one of those people who posts his whole life on Facebook. Sometimes when he complains about women rejecting him because he's short, he has almost no basis for saying so. Other times he does.

The thing is he actually does pretty well with women (obviously he posts that too). So either they don't care or don't know.

So much for women's impeccable intuition for the angry, short guy...
Kinda strange.

But yeah, I see people like that all over the place. They tend to blame their height, but... I've seen people from under 5 feet to around 5'7" and they don't seem to have a problem getting women. I've had a friend who is the "ideal" 6'3" and yet, he used to get kinda jealous of me because women would seem to choose me over him (I'm merely 6'0" if even that).
 
Old 07-12-2019, 04:00 PM
 
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Nah I know what Iím capable of. Thereís women I know thereís no way I can get it up for because Iím turned off by their appearance.

Iíd rather masturbate or pay for sex then have that type of sex just to be in a relationship.
It is what it is.
 
Old 07-12-2019, 08:18 PM
 
Location: Hampstead NC
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Iíve tried old and it never worked for me.. couldnít ever get a response back.. I never deleted my profile but I stayed off it and after a few years I got my first message from a lady.

I knew by her picture I had no physical attraction at all but since I can never get dates I figured why not give it a shot even knowing myself and how my attraction works that this probably would go nowhere.

She was fine as a person had fun taking to her but there was no way I could ever be intimate wit her. She called me and asked for another date I felt bad but I just couldnít do it. There was no way I could picture even kissing her.

I know how my attraction works and Iíd rather be alone the rest of my life then with someone Iím not physically attracted to at all which might be my situation but so be it.
Well, that's how it works. You stepped out of your comfort zone a bit and confirmed that your 'type' really is your 'type'.

So....what's the problem? Did you think OLD was going to match you with your dream date the first time out? Try it a thousand more times and maybe you'll meet someone you want to kiss. I'm serious.

You had fun talking to her. So what was your big loss? Was it more fun than staying home at alone?
 
Old 07-12-2019, 09:19 PM
 
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Ugh... What is this world coming to?! Going nuts ranting and raving and threatening because no woman would date you?
sounds like the kinda guys that go around insulting girls on dating sites.

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JB it sounds to me, feel free to enlighten me if not so, that you mostly like (even in your diverse taste) conventionally attractive women. Cute face, nice body, proportionate curves etc...

But, are you a conventionally attractive man? Honestly are you? If you're not "hot" or even "warm", whatcha gonna do?
does it even matter? Most guys are not the stereotypical 'hot guy' (tall, buff, etc), but most have gf's. So unless you have the personality or money, it doesn't matter how good looking you are.
 
Old 07-13-2019, 12:29 AM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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Nah I know what Iím capable of. Thereís women I know thereís no way I can get it up for because Iím turned off by their appearance.

Iíd rather masturbate or pay for sex then have that type of sex just to be in a relationship.
A lot of those dirty-legged hookers are hard on the eyes.
 
Old 07-13-2019, 07:37 AM
 
Location: Crook County, Illinois
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I can relate to this thread, because I did exactly that in college: date a girl I wasn't attracted to. I couldn't get dates in high school (no car, not an athlete), so I started college as a kissless virgin. So, when that girl showed interest in me (let's call her Becky), I was so overjoyed, that I completely ignored my lack of physical attraction to her. She was also from outside the Chicago area, so the "reinvent myself" factor added to the appeal. As for me not finding her attractive, I figured she'd grow on me in time and I'd start seeing past her looks. Of course, I asked her out, and we went on our first date.

Right off the bat, I got knocked down a notch: she absolutely insisted on driving, and wouldn't hear of taking a bus or a train. Mind you, our college was in a dense, urban area, where parking is a pain in the behind and public transit is normal. Not to the level of Manhattan, but nothing stigmatized like in Suburbia, USA. At least she was nice enough to pitch in for parking, and didn't mind walking if a place was close enough. She also had very little in common with me, which meant the dates had to be what she wanted, like window shopping. (I didn't feel like I was in the position to insist on something I liked, like going to the Museum of Contemporary Art.) The only shared interests we had was sushi and the city zoo.

Obviously, it was only a matter of time before resentment creeped up. I tried asking her if we could do things my way (in retrospect, in a supplicating, needy manner), but she'd refuse: "I'm not taking a bus", "museums aren't fun", etc. I still kept seeing her, thinking I had no other dating options. Plus, she gave me my first kiss and went to the college dance with me as my date, where we slow-danced. After 3 or 4 months, our relationship fizzled out due to sheer incompatibility, with minimal bitter feelings on both of our parts. I stopped romanticizing relationships after that, and saw them mostly as gateways to sex and "date insurance".

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Old 07-13-2019, 07:54 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
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I can relate to this thread, because I did exactly that in college: date a girl I wasn't attracted to. I couldn't get dates in high school (no car, not an athlete), so I started college as a kissless virgin. So, when that girl showed interest in me (let's call her Becky), I was so overjoyed, that I completely ignored my lack of physical attraction to her. She was also from outside the Chicago area, so the "reinvent myself" factor added to the appeal. As for me not finding her attractive, I figured she'd grow on me in time and I'd start seeing past her looks. Of course, I asked her out, and we went on our first date.
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Plenty of guys who weren't athletes and didn't have cars dated in HS. It's not legal to drive until 16, you know. 15-year-olds date. Leaving HS and going to college already is a big reinvent yourself opportunity. The fact that she was from out of town was irrelevant, unless you were in a CC with your former HS classmates.
 
Old 07-13-2019, 08:17 AM
 
Location: Crook County, Illinois
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Plenty of guys who weren't athletes and didn't have cars dated in HS. It's not legal to drive until 16, you know. 15-year-olds date. Leaving HS and going to college already is a big reinvent yourself opportunity. The fact that she was from out of town was irrelevant, unless you were in a CC with your former HS classmates.
I guess maybe in your world. My high school had a very strong car culture: a guy was pretty much required to have a car before even asking out a girl. An Abercrombie & Fitch T-shirt (good lord, I feel old!) didn't hurt, either. Freshman and sophomores sometimes walked to a diner a few blocks over, but by and large, only juniors and seniors did any real dating/relationships.

What I didn't realize with Becky, my first real date, is that she was from one of the most transit-unfriendly states in the country: Nebraska. (I'd give the first-place honors to Texas, though.) And she just came from there too, rather than "acclimatizing" in Chicago for a year or so; it was our freshman year. No wonder she had such a strong aversion to buses and trains.

The idea of having a girlfriend for the first time clouded my judgment.

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