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I’ve tried old and it never worked for me.. couldn’t ever get a response back.. I never deleted my profile but I stayed off it and after a few years I got my first message from a lady.
I knew by her picture I had no physical attraction at all but since I can never get dates I figured why not give it a shot even knowing myself and how my attraction works that this probably would go nowhere.
She was fine as a person had fun taking to her but there was no way I could ever be intimate wit her. She called me and asked for another date I felt bad but I just couldn’t do it. There was no way I could picture even kissing her.
I know how my attraction works and I’d rather be alone the rest of my life then with someone I’m not physically attracted to at all which might be my situation but so be it.
If you cant get dates, what are you doing to figure out why? What are you doing to better yourself?
I’ve tried old and it never worked for me.. couldn’t ever get a response back.. I never deleted my profile but I stayed off it and after a few years I got my first message from a lady.
I knew by her picture I had no physical attraction at all but since I can never get dates I figured why not give it a shot even knowing myself and how my attraction works that this probably would go nowhere.
She was fine as a person had fun taking to her but there was no way I could ever be intimate wit her. She called me and asked for another date I felt bad but I just couldn’t do it. There was no way I could picture even kissing her.
I know how my attraction works and I’d rather be alone the rest of my life then with someone I’m not physically attracted to at all which might be my situation but so be it.
So why not say, "let's be friends."
Let's face it, we all know there are some "heck no" people for us. That is not being shallow it is being real.
BUT
What you have done is boost your own self-esteem by getting a woman to be into you when you have no interest in her and that is a la'douche move.
Obviously, something worked here. That’s got to be a positive point, right? This proves that you at least have something to offer on the dating market, that she saw it, thought it was good enough to take a chance on, contacted you, went on a date wth you, and wanted to do it again. So, that’s great, from my point of view. “It didn’t go well,” I’d say, it went about as well as you’d have expected it to given what you know about yourself and what you knew about her. I’d take it as a place to start building some self-confidence, even if it didn’t have a fairytale ending.
I’ve tried old and it never worked for me.. couldn’t ever get a response back.. I never deleted my profile but I stayed off it and after a few years I got my first message from a lady.
I knew by her picture I had no physical attraction at all but since I can never get dates I figured why not give it a shot even knowing myself and how my attraction works that this probably would go nowhere.
She was fine as a person had fun taking to her but there was no way I could ever be intimate wit her. She called me and asked for another date I felt bad but I just couldn’t do it. There was no way I could picture even kissing her.
I know how my attraction works and I’d rather be alone the rest of my life then with someone I’m not physically attracted to at all which might be my situation but so be it.
I don't when people say "they can't get dates" I feel they're just not trying hard enough, or they're looking in the wrong places. Are you making an effort to meet people? Just putting a profile up on OLD and not getting any messages doesn't automatically mean you can't get dates, it could be something in your profile that's putting people off.
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So why not say, "let's be friends."
Let's face it, we all know there are some "heck no" people for us. That is not being shallow it is being real.
BUT
What you have done is boost your own self-esteem by getting a woman to be into you when you have no interest in her and that is a la'douche move.
What?! He didn’t exactly put an evil spell on her forcing her to like him. He simply went out on a date and made conversation with a woman. If that woman is into him, totally on her and not him.
IMHO, you never should have accepted/offered a date in the first place bc you already knew it wasn't going to work out. Why waste the time?
But, let me ask you JB... has this given you any new perspective from the other side of it? Many of the one's who are your "type" may not see you as their's just like on your own date. What would you advise your unattractive date to do to improve her chances, and could you benefit from the same advice?
Get better looking? Lol or find someone who’s physically attracted to you
Truth is she was fine personality wise she just wasn’t attractive to me.
OP you probably need a reality check. If you can't get a date with the women you find attractive then that should tell you something, maybe you are not on their level.
Let's face it, we all know there are some "heck no" people for us. That is not being shallow it is being real.
BUT
What you have done is boost your own self-esteem by getting a woman to be into you when you have no interest in her and that is a la'douche move.
What are you talking about? This didn’t help my self esteem I did it to see if i found other things attractive about her that would make me attracted to her but it didnt work.
Guys who can’t get dates get killed here for having too high a standards or shooting out of their league then if you lower it and it doesn’t work you’re getting on me for it . You can’t win.
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He didn’t exactly put an evil spell on her forcing her to like him. He simply went out on a date and made conversation with a woman. If that woman is into him, totally on her and not him. 
