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Old 07-11-2019, 09:39 AM
 
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Iíve tried old and it never worked for me.. couldnít ever get a response back.. I never deleted my profile but I stayed off it and after a few years I got my first message from a lady.

I knew by her picture I had no physical attraction at all but since I can never get dates I figured why not give it a shot even knowing myself and how my attraction works that this probably would go nowhere.

She was fine as a person had fun taking to her but there was no way I could ever be intimate wit her. She called me and asked for another date I felt bad but I just couldnít do it. There was no way I could picture even kissing her.

I know how my attraction works and Iíd rather be alone the rest of my life then with someone Iím not physically attracted to at all which might be my situation but so be it.

 
Old 07-11-2019, 09:42 AM
 
Location: Fuquay Varina
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So you are shallow, at least you know this going forward. Nothing wrong with it.
 
Old 07-11-2019, 09:54 AM
 
Location: SoCal again
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So you are shallow, at least you know this going forward. Nothing wrong with it.
Well, that is harsh.
Are you willing to date just anyone, are you able to be attracted to everyone that has two legs and is of the opposite gender?
 
Old 07-11-2019, 09:57 AM
 
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So you are shallow, at least you know this going forward. Nothing wrong with it.
Maybe...

He just wasn't physically attracted to her.
 
Old 07-11-2019, 09:58 AM
 
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Iíve tried old and it never worked for me.. couldnít ever get a response back.. I never deleted my profile but I stayed off it and after a few years I got my first message from a lady.

I knew by her picture I had no physical attraction at all but since I can never get dates I figured why not give it a shot even knowing myself and how my attraction works that this probably would go nowhere.

She was fine as a person had fun taking to her but there was no way I could ever be intimate wit her. She called me and asked for another date I felt bad but I just couldnít do it. There was no way I could picture even kissing her.

I know how my attraction works and Iíd rather be alone the rest of my life then with someone Iím not physically attracted to at all which might be my situation but so be it.
But hey, you went on a date and you realized something about yourself.
 
Old 07-11-2019, 10:02 AM
 
Location: Boulder, CO
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I've tried dating outside my preference "zone" and it has never gone well.


We like what we like.
 
Old 07-11-2019, 10:18 AM
 
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IMHO, you never should have accepted/offered a date in the first place bc you already knew it wasn't going to work out. Why waste the time?

But, let me ask you JB... has this given you any new perspective from the other side of it? Many of the one's who are your "type" may not see you as their's just like on your own date. What would you advise your unattractive date to do to improve her chances, and could you benefit from the same advice?

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Old 07-11-2019, 10:23 AM
 
Location: Arlington, VA and Washington, DC
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This is why I hit back so hard at people who say I should take out people I don’t have an immediate attraction to. It is just a waste of time.
 
Old 07-11-2019, 10:24 AM
 
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I'm a woman and feel the same way about some men. It's normal. Why bother with even a first date. These are the people to be friends with, not lovers.
 
Old 07-11-2019, 10:27 AM
 
Location: Sugarland
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Iíve tried old and it never worked for me.. couldnít ever get a response back.. I never deleted my profile but I stayed off it and after a few years I got my first message from a lady.

I knew by her picture I had no physical attraction at all but since I can never get dates I figured why not give it a shot even knowing myself and how my attraction works that this probably would go nowhere.

She was fine as a person had fun taking to her but there was no way I could ever be intimate wit her. She called me and asked for another date I felt bad but I just couldnít do it. There was no way I could picture even kissing her.

I know how my attraction works and Iíd rather be alone the rest of my life then with someone Iím not physically attracted to at all which might be my situation but so be it.
Sorry it didnít work out. Iím glad you gave it a shot though. Iíve also been on dates with guys who I didnít find physically attractive. It happens. But I also wouldnít force myself to continue seeing a person who didnít interest me just so I wouldnít be alone.
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