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Old Yesterday, 08:45 AM
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Originally Posted by CHAZCEE View Post
First I want to thank everyone who took the time to reply and I felt I should give an update on the situation.

Again, I am not against us living together but felt that our circumstances were the problem and “separate lives together” was the best we could do. .

The situation WAS that my 31 year old daughter and I had purchased a house together last year. It is in her name although I provided the funds for the down-payment and move. My one and only had committed to living with her sister and teenage nephews.

It seems fate has intervened, as it often does.

My daughter’s long term boyfriend has “grown up” and they want to start a family together. He is intent on and has the smarts and education to pursue a career as an actuary. He is prepping for the tests right now.

They have an opportunity to live together in a house owned by his parents and are anxious to do so. She will be moving out as early as September.

After spending a few weeks in discussion; my O&O and her sister have decided that their lifestyles are totally incompatible. They cannot and will not be living together.

My O&O and I will start co-habituating here in my Daughter’s house on a trial basis in September when my daughter moves out. If it goes well, as I hope and expect it will, my one and only will move in completely when her apartment lease expires in December.

We will be renting this house from my Daughter with the same rights and responsibilities of any tenants. We will be splitting living expenses 50/50.

As before we are deeply in love, thrive on each other’s company and both feel that we were “meant” to be a couple. We want to make a home filled with family, friends, laughter and love.

Thanks again for your replies
Best wishes to you both. Go forth and be merry <3
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Old Today, 06:22 AM
Location: Northern Wisconsin
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Yes, I know a couple like this. Both seemed happy with the arrangement. Its not common. Most of the senior unmarried couples I've known did live together. Funny thing is, there are also lots of married couples, who stayed married be each went their own way and did totally separate ways. They might not see each other for months.

If I were you, I'd maintain separate homes. I think it would cut down on fights. Makes breakup a lot easier. You gf doesnt have a good track record with relationships either. Besides, moving is a pain.
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Old Today, 08:31 AM
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Originally Posted by CHAZCEE View Post
A agree. I am always a seeker of knowledge and my intent in the OP was to establish if "separate lives together" was weird at our ages. I did not think it was and the responses on here support that.
Good luck. I do hope it goes well, especially since you were against living together in the first place.
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