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Old Yesterday, 10:56 AM
 
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OP: are you getting paid to pitch Bumble here? Serious question. Good luck with your date tomorrow though!

Regarding this feature:
1. I'm not big on phone calls, probably wouldn't use this.
2. POF already has something similar.
3. Can't you call with Snapchat or Facebook Messenger, without giving out your #?
It got to the point that if I messaged a guy on POF, they thought it was fake and angrily replied: Nice Try! Or Iíd reply once, check in later and theyíve already sent 5 messages and are pretty sure Iím a fake.
No comparison.
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Old Yesterday, 11:07 AM
 
Location: Iowa
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So how would you see yourself using this calling feature? How early in a conversation?
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It got to the point that if I messaged a guy on POF, they thought it was fake and angrily replied: Nice Try! Or Iíd reply once, check in later and theyíve already sent 5 messages and are pretty sure Iím a fake.
No comparison.
The spam on POF is really obvious, it's pretty easy to just block and move on. Idk why anyone would bother responding "nice try" lol.

I've had quality dates from most of the apps and think it's worth having a profile on more than one. I'd take Bumble over Tinder for sure.
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Old Yesterday, 11:15 AM
 
Location: Crook County, Illinois
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You can now talk on the phone now without sharing your personal phone number. Once you matched with someone you have the option to call. Men can only call after the first match. But that is awesome and it has happened at the right time...."Summer Time" I kept wondering why every time she sent a message it said YOUR MOVE. Bumble is about to eliminate online dating sites for good with this feature.

Only downside I see to this is it will increase the number of times someone flakes on you. Meaning that you can decide to not meet someone you made plans with if you get a "new bee in your hive"
Back when I used online dating, like OKC and POF, I found that talking on the phone did more harm than good. I learned the hard way that early on in the dating process, women look for every little excuse in the book to reject a man. Even saying "hey, how are you?" in the wrong inflection. So, after your first phone conversation, she later texts you to tell you she's "washing her hair that night". So why give a woman an easy excuse to reject you when you don't have to?

What I did was limit communication to the messages on the site, until it was time to meet. (No apps back then.) Then, right before setting up a date, I asked to exchange phone numbers. Only I wouldn't call until I was on the way, under the pretext of telling her she can head out too. (Because "I can't text while driving". ) It's a lot harder to flake out when both of you are already driving to meet each other. It kept flaking to a minimum.

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It got to the point that if I messaged a guy on POF, they thought it was fake and angrily replied: Nice Try! Or I’d reply once, check in later and they’ve already sent 5 messages and are pretty sure I’m a fake.
No comparison.
Sign of the times! It's what killed Usenet/newsgroups: the bots and the spam. To the point where real people couldn't use it. Granted, the bots were quite simplistic back then, but it wasn't too tricky to write one in C++. And now, the same thing is happening with online dating. Just curious: what did you write that the guys thought you were a fake?
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Old Yesterday, 11:22 AM
 
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Back when I used online dating, like OKC and POF, I found that talking on the phone did more harm than good. I learned the hard way that early on in the dating process, women look for every little excuse in the book to reject a man. Even saying "hey, how are you?" in the wrong inflection. So, after your first phone conversation, she later texts you to tell you she's "washing her hair that night". So why give a woman an easy excuse to reject you when you don't have to?

What I did was limit communication to the messages on the site, until it was time to meet. (No apps back then.) Then, right before setting up a date, I asked to exchange phone numbers. Only I wouldn't call until I was on the way, under the pretext of telling her she can head out too. (Because "I can't text while driving". ) It's a lot harder to flake out when both of you are already driving to meet each other. It kept flaking to a minimum.

Sign of the times! It's what killed Usenet/newsgroups: the bots and the spam. To the point where real people couldn't use it. Granted, the bots were quite simplistic back then, but it wasn't too tricky to write one in C++. And now, the same thing is happening with online dating. Just curious: what did you write that the guys thought you were a fake?
AI is way more sophisticated now. We should have AI helping us fight cancer, instead a lot of it used to help scam others. Humanity......
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Old Yesterday, 11:23 AM
 
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Thank god im not single!
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Old Yesterday, 11:23 AM
 
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Back when I used online dating, like OKC and POF, I found that talking on the phone did more harm than good. I learned the hard way that early on in the dating process, women look for every little excuse in the book to reject a man. Even saying "hey, how are you?" in the wrong inflection. So, after your first phone conversation, she later texts you to tell you she's "washing her hair that night". So why give a woman an easy excuse to reject you when you don't have to?

What I did was limit communication to the messages on the site, until it was time to meet. (No apps back then.) Then, right before setting up a date, I asked to exchange phone numbers. Only I wouldn't call until I was on the way, under the pretext of telling her she can head out too. (Because "I can't text while driving". ) It's a lot harder to flake out when both of you are already driving to meet each other. It kept flaking to a minimum.

Sign of the times! It's what killed Usenet/newsgroups: the bots and the spam. To the point where real people couldn't use it. Granted, the bots were quite simplistic back then, but it wasn't too tricky to write one in C++. And now, the same thing is happening with online dating. Just curious: what did you write that the guys thought you were a fake?
Talking on the phone to set up a face to face meeting now talking on the phone all day.
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Old Yesterday, 11:42 AM
 
Location: Iowa
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AI is way more sophisticated now. We should have AI helping us fight cancer, instead a lot of it used to help scam others. Humanity......
The spam I see is anything but sophisticated lol.
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Talking on the phone to set up a face to face meeting now talking on the phone all day.
I like messaging to set up dates.
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Old Yesterday, 11:47 AM
 
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So how would you see yourself using this calling feature? How early in a conversation?

The spam on POF is really obvious, it's pretty easy to just block and move on. Idk why anyone would bother responding "nice try" lol.

I've had quality dates from most of the apps and think it's worth having a profile on more than one. I'd take Bumble over Tinder for sure.
Because he was a moron?
I donít see myself using the feature actually, Iíve never liked talking into the phone. I have to be chained to it during working hours. So itís great for people who are worried about giving their phone number out to someone they want to get to know, but thatís for another thread.
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Old Yesterday, 11:51 AM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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Sounds really fun.

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Old Yesterday, 11:54 AM
 
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Back when I used online dating, like OKC and POF, I found that talking on the phone did more harm than good. I learned the hard way that early on in the dating process, women look for every little excuse in the book to reject a man. Even saying "hey, how are you?" in the wrong inflection. So, after your first phone conversation, she later texts you to tell you she's "washing her hair that night". So why give a woman an easy excuse to reject you when you don't have to?

What I did was limit communication to the messages on the site, until it was time to meet. (No apps back then.) Then, right before setting up a date, I asked to exchange phone numbers. Only I wouldn't call until I was on the way, under the pretext of telling her she can head out too. (Because "I can't text while driving". ) It's a lot harder to flake out when both of you are already driving to meet each other. It kept flaking to a minimum.

Sign of the times! It's what killed Usenet/newsgroups: the bots and the spam. To the point where real people couldn't use it. Granted, the bots were quite simplistic back then, but it wasn't too tricky to write one in C++. And now, the same thing is happening with online dating. Just curious: what did you write that the guys thought you were a fake?
It was in response to messaging them. Nothing unusual, I just commented on an aspect of their profile, starting a conversation. I like to be the one to pick. Then I eventually learned “here” that all men don’t really get a lot of messages, so maybe that’s why. Idk, but the vicious cycle of it has caused a noticeably negative attitude coming out in their profile and messages. That’s why I switched to Bumble.
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