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Old Today, 02:33 AM
 
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Here is my situation, When I was about 12-13, I met this girl who lived in our neighborhood, she was a year older than me, She was pretty much the first girl who was interested in me, that I was interested in too, we did some things together back then, (but not really much kids that age can do together), we would walk to each others house occasionally, ( we lived a few streets over from each other,) I remember breaking my curfew a number of times, just because I was up at her house, (usually sitting in her backyard talking). We did 'mess around' a little bit (french kiss, touchy-feely stuff, LOL), she was the first girl for me for any of this, Im not sure if I was her first or not though. I was majorly into racing BMX back in those days and I do remember her going to a couple of the races, my mom would pick her up on the way there.


She eventually moved away right before our little friendship got going to anything more serious, or really before we were calling each other BF and GF, (moved out of state), she lived in my state with her mom, but her dad lived in North Carolina, I heard from one of her friends she didnt want to live with her dad, but they were forcing her for some reason.


I recently found her on Facebook, she still lives in NC, never been married, no kids. By looking at her FB page, she doesnt use FB that much, her last activity was in 2017 and even then, she only posted one picture in all of 2017. I also noticed she is only friends with 2 other people from my area (and she went to school here up until the 7th grade), so Im not sure what to make of that, maybe she has all but forgotten her friends from that age?


Im thinking about sending her a friend request or a message, but just not sure about whether I should or not, she may not even remember me!


Any opinions (specifically from women), would you remember a boy from your childhood like this, and would you like it if he tried to re-connect later in life? Thanks!
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Old Today, 03:52 AM
 
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A lot can happen in the 2 years since she posted on FB. Move on...
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Old Today, 08:04 AM
 
Location: Bloomington IN
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She probably will remember you, but it doesn't sound like she uses social media much. You can reach out to her as on old friend, but don't expect a response. She may not see your message or friend request for years.
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Old Today, 08:38 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
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You won't find out if she remembers you or not, if you don't reach out. If you do reach out, and she doesn't remember you, you won't have lost anything; you'll still be where you are now in life, but at least you'll know. But I think it's highly unlikely that she'll have forgotten you. Give her a holler, and be prepared to wait awhile, because she may not check her FB for another 6 months or more. If I were you, I'd try to find her elsewhere, in addition to FB; have you checked LinkedIn?
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Old Today, 08:53 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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I think you should send her a friend request.

For one thing, you may not be getting an accurate look at her social media activity, since you're not currently friends.

Regardless, reaching out is the only way you'll really know about what's going on with her. But keep your expectations realistic. The fact that you live in different states automatically makes any chance of getting together more difficult.
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Old Today, 10:43 AM
 
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She probably will remember you, but it doesn't sound like she uses social media much. You can reach out to her as on old friend, but don't expect a response. She may not see your message or friend request for years.
Sure, why not if you really want to, but I agree w/ the above too.

Say something good to make sure she remembers you & tell her what you'd like to possibly happen...for example, if she's ever in the area to visit you & don't forget to give your phone # since you seem to want to get back in contact.

(Now if she was some divorced mother of kids, I'd say eh, probably forget about it...unless you don't care about dealing w/ baggage, the real father of the kids, etc.)
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Old Today, 10:55 AM
 
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Send it. What could go wrong using FaceBook.
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Old Today, 10:56 AM
 
Location: In the Pearl of the Purchase, Ky
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If you're also friends with the 2 on her friends list from your area (I'm not talking if you're facebook friends, but if you know them) ask if they've heard from her in a while. If yes, ask them to tell her you were asking about her and give them your email. If she wants to get in touch with you then, she will. Never hurts to try!
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Old Today, 10:59 AM
 
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What are your motives? That will partly dictate what you should do. Are you looking just to be friends, or to get romantically involved with her, or...?

Don't be disappointed if she doesn't respond or "friend" you back. She may not be on Facebook much, she may not remember you, she may be very choosy about who she has on her friends list, and for some people the past is the past and if she has plenty of friends now, she might not feel the need to reconnect with people from decades ago. Especially since neither of you has any idea who the other turned out to be and you might discover you don't even get along anymore.
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Old Today, 01:19 PM
 
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I think you should send her a friend request.

For one thing, you may not be getting an accurate look at her social media activity, since you're not currently friends.

Regardless, reaching out is the only way you'll really know about what's going on with her. But keep your expectations realistic. The fact that you live in different states automatically makes any chance of getting together more difficult.
I forgot to make that clear in my original post, I have NO expectations going into this, especially not some re-kindling where we start dating again! LOL Id just like to talk to her again.
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