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Too late now if she decides to keep the baby, but consider a vasectomy so there won't be any additional accidents with other women. Child support for one will be bad enough.
If having a child is that big of a risk to your future then you shouldn’t have been having sex, much less unprotected sex. If you can’t take the chance, keep it in your pants.
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Originally Posted by gentlearts
Time to grow up. Its called consequences of your actions. It’s her decision, and it’s great you are focused on the career, what with the child support and all.
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Originally Posted by Mikala43
You have no say in the decision. Being an azhat is certainly not going to change her mind
I was careless. Not trying to point out who's to blame here, that's not the issue.
It is the issue, though. There are responsibilities in having a FWB--it's not all fun and games. Did you ever discuss with her what your expectations would be if something like this happened? Did you know how she felt about it? Did you know what her birth control methods were?
I was careless. Not trying to point out who's to blame here, that's not the issue.
Actually, no that's not how it works. You assigned blame when you got angry with her, you assigned blame when you yelled at her, you assigned blame when you told her to get an abortion. All of this could've been prevented if you wore a condom or at least had some type of birth control agreement with her before you started bumping uglies. Sorry, but you don't get to be angry when you had just as much to do with this as she does. You are a grown 34 year old man, you know how sex works.
What actually happened here is that you were only thinking about your pleasure. You thought you were going to be able to hit it raw, climax, and she'll take care of the rest. Your anger essentially says, "Dammit why couldn't you just let me have my fun in peace?" You don't get to be surprised or tell someone else what to do, when YOU effed up as well. But what's done is done. You made your bed, now you have to lie in it.
This kind of thing is ridiculous. After a certain age, there are no oops babies when it comes to sex. If you don't know how it works, you shouldn't be doing it. The problem is people think they're invincible to these things and when it happens, they don't know how to respond. It's so stupid.
Taking responsibility for your actions is called being an adult. Admittedly you were careless.
You do not get to decide what she does with her body. Your career goals of no importance here.
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