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Old 07-17-2019, 10:39 AM
 
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The bolded irks my nerves for a few reasons:

- It implies that someone who is not surrounded by people or has a lot of friends is defective in some kind of way.
- It implies that just because a lot of people talk to her, they are automatically her friends and she owes them some kind of opportunity to get close to her.
- It implies she doesn't have a brain of her own and she should just accept whatever company comes her way.
- It implies she is only worth what she can give other people. In this case, her friendship or something more intimate.
- It implies that any attention she gets is good attention, which is not always the case.

As woman who is considered a loner (I only have two best friends and I'm single) and is considered generally attractive to many people, stuff like that irritates me. It doesn't allow the person to define who they are and it takes away their ability to choose how they want to live their lives. For me, I stay to myself because: I don't make connections with others often, most people I've met didn't really add to my life or were mediocre at best, I enjoy my own company, less distractions, and I don't believe it should be a duty to go out and make relationships happen.

It sounds like you're living in a bubble and need to get out more.
I would not say in the least they are defective, but it is not typical, esp. if she lives in a large city where opportunities of single men would likely approach her.

Every attractive woman I've ever known had quite the size-able social circles.
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Old 07-17-2019, 10:50 AM
 
Location: In a place beyond human comprehension
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I would not say in the least they are defective, but it is not typical, esp. if she lives in a large city where opportunities of single men would likely approach her.

Every attractive woman I've ever known had quite the size-able social circles.
Just because it's not typical doesn't mean it doesn't happen or that something is wrong when it does. Attractive women (plenty I know), can be loners and choose to be that way. To me when others have a problem with it, it's because they want something from that person. They get butt hurt when they can't have their piece. They tend to think that if a person is attractive, they feed off of attention. It's irritating. A lot of us don't want to be bothered with that. Many options are not good options.

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Old 07-17-2019, 11:00 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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I would not say in the least they are defective, but it is not typical, esp. if she lives in a large city where opportunities of single men would likely approach her.

Every attractive woman I've ever known had quite the size-able social circles.
Just because someone gets attention doesn't mean the attention is welcome. Some people, even attractive people, simply want to be left alone or to socialize on their own terms.
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Old 07-17-2019, 11:40 AM
 
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I'm curious but are there much female loners out there? Now the bigger question is... are there attractive women that are loners or have very few friends? I always thought if a girl is very attractive or attractive but she is somewhat a loner, there must be something wrong about her. Because if is she is attractive, she would have lot of friends of guys trying to talk to them etc. But when i look at males, its like there are a ton of males out there that are good looking but are shy and introverted and loners so to speak.
Women are much less likely to be loners in my experience. They have a greater need for socialization.

As for good looking loners, good looks always speaks for itself.

I remember we knew this half-Asian, half-white guy who was a pretty good looking guy. Almost never spoke. Zero charisma or personality. In my social circle was this girl who was a total party girl, one of the most extroverted people you'll ever meet. And she was all over it from the first minute.

I know where you're coming from though. It's like a dream of young men who are loners that they will find a cute woman who is also socially awkward, so that way her expectations aren't for a guy to have charisma through the roof just for a date.

As a generality though, even more socially awkward women have many options...
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Old 07-17-2019, 12:18 PM
 
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Having beauty that is an accident of nature isn't a guarantee of popularity.

At the same time, there's a reason a synonym of beautiful (besides "hot") is attractive. They do manage to attract attention and favor, lessening the chance that there are hot loners hanging out at home, waiting for a mate. Improbable, not impossible.

You don't happen to watch a lot of porn, do you eric?
Hmm.. What does that have to do with anything? Just humor me
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Old 07-17-2019, 06:12 PM
 
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What Auraliea said.

I don't click with many people and I tend to stick to rural areas.
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Old 07-17-2019, 06:46 PM
 
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I consider myself a female loner. Nothing special is happening in my life at this moment.
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Old 07-18-2019, 12:46 AM
 
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Female loners are probably the most picky when it comes to relationships...best to not waste your time.
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Old 07-21-2019, 01:08 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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Female loners are probably the most picky when it comes to relationships...best to not waste your time.
Either that OR unfortunately & unwisely, some may just be so glad to have someone when they finally meet someone that they don't implement the self-respect, self-esteem, or high standards that they had for a relationship that they used to hold. So then it becomes anything goes. For example, he drinks too much, but she'll let it slide because he's good overall or he's flirtier or more controlling than I like, but oh well...

That's NOT good. No one should ever compromise their morals, values, ethics, beliefs, etc. just to say they "have a man or have a woman". I'd rather stay alone & be a heck of a LOT happier than be miserable.
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Old 07-22-2019, 06:31 AM
 
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Yep there's women loners , and it has nothing to do with looks. They just prefer doing their own thing or life with their partner if they have one , and they can be gorgeous too, some even more so and with more worth and soul than the average supposedly good looking female out there with all her social crap.
But op you make it sound like all a woman needs is looks to have a busy social life, but if all she has is looks then that ain't gonna get her far in anything real.

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