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Old 07-16-2019, 02:38 PM
 
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Both being single and being in a relationship but I don't mind being at the moment but love finds you when you least expect it
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Old 07-16-2019, 03:23 PM
 
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OP I totally feel you. I am 33, single and very happy and have been for 10 years. Are there moments where I feel lonely? Well of course, but that is life, one can never escape that. People in relationships feel lonely all the time. Some are even dreadfully lonely. I would say I feel a lot less lonely

Now, the only time I see it as a problem is if you are single because you fear of being in a relationship. If you meet someone and they pique your interest you should pursue that and be open to that. I am someone who is against dating for the sake of dating. I am a believer that you need to live your right life, doing the things you value and are healthy for you, and that will bring the right person into your life. To me finding a serious and good relationship usually takes a lot of patience and time, something most people don't want to do.

OP as long as your happy and aren't purposely trying to avoid a relationship or not allowing yourself to be in love, there is NOTHING wrong with you. Most of my friends are in relationships and in all honesty, I find that I am much much happier than most of them. That's because most of them don't feel fulfilled unless in a relationship. To me that is a reflection that you are not happy as a person, therefore you seek out someone that can make it up for that (which I think is nonsense).
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Old 07-16-2019, 05:08 PM
 
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Well, I guess I'm not the only weirdo ha. My dating life has been extremely sporadic also. I'm 39 and my last attempt at dating was at 36. Before that, 25. I'm the jealous, untrusting type. But to be fair, I had reason. Dating is not for me. I realize it, and I realize I'm happier this way. No jealousy anymore, and I don't have to lose sleep worrying about being two timed. I probably have relatives who think I'm gay, but you can't live life according to what people might think. It isn't their life. Gotta do what's in your comfort zone. Tons of people are married who are miserable. I'm not miserable. I guess your situation is more complicated because you want kids, but you can adopt.
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Old Today, 10:13 AM
 
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"Tons of people are married who are miserable."


50%+ of first marriages end in divorce, and this number doesn't count the intact but unhappy marriages. Using this methodology, the majority of marriages failed or are at least unhappy.

A person DOES NOT need a significant other to be a complete person, nor does a committed relationship guarantee happiness, sex, companionship, fulfillment, love, or not dying alone.
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Old Today, 11:36 AM
 
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I'm a 37 year old guy and have been single since I was 25. I've only had two serious relationships (one for about 6 months when I was 18 and the other for a year and a half at age 24-25). I've had friends and family try to set me up on blind dates from time to time but in all honesty, I'm just not all that interested in dating and tell them no thanks. When I've pictured myself in the future, I can see myself having kids and would like to be a dad, but I just can't see myself in a serious relationship, mainly from lack of interest. Is this weird?
Well, you are not a spring chicken anymore, so the future is now or not far away, you would have to change your mind in the near future.

However, there is nothing bad with not wanting a relationship. Why don't you look into either adopting or big brother thing or fostering?
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Old Today, 08:17 PM
 
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I'm a 37 year old guy and have been single since I was 25. I've only had two serious relationships (one for about 6 months when I was 18 and the other for a year and a half at age 24-25). I've had friends and family try to set me up on blind dates from time to time but in all honesty, I'm just not all that interested in dating and tell them no thanks. When I've pictured myself in the future, I can see myself having kids and would like to be a dad, but I just can't see myself in a serious relationship, mainly from lack of interest. Is this weird?
No its not weird at all. I have had a couple serious long term relationships and now I am single by choice. I am really enjoying it and in no hurry to find anyone. I'm not sure I want to give up my carefree life. I'm not against it, but honestly I find peace and comfort with my situation.
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Old Today, 08:45 PM
 
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I am perfectly okay with being single, but I like dating, too. If you are not happy with yourself as a single person, you probably shouldn't be dating anyone.
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