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Old 07-15-2019, 09:51 PM
 
Location: Silver Spring, MD
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I'm a 37 year old guy and have been single since I was 25. I've only had two serious relationships (one for about 6 months when I was 18 and the other for a year and a half at age 24-25). I've had friends and family try to set me up on blind dates from time to time but in all honesty, I'm just not all that interested in dating and tell them no thanks. When I've pictured myself in the future, I can see myself having kids and would like to be a dad, but I just can't see myself in a serious relationship, mainly from lack of interest. Is this weird?
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Old 07-15-2019, 09:53 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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I'm a 37 year old guy and have been single since I was 25. I've only had two serious relationships (one for about 6 months when I was 18 and the other for a year and a half at age 24-25). I've had friends and family try to set me up on blind dates from time to time but in all honesty, I'm just not all that interested in dating and tell them no thanks. When I've pictured myself in the future, I can see myself having kids and would like to be a dad, but I just can't see myself in a serious relationship, mainly from lack of interest. Is this weird?
Can you explain more about the “lack of interest”? Unpack that idea a bit?
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Old 07-15-2019, 10:44 PM
 
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Who cares whether it's "weird", what's "normal"? What matters is what YOU think, not anyone else. But you obviously care enough to post this thread, so why do you feel this way?
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Old 07-15-2019, 11:21 PM
 
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I'm a 37 year old guy and have been single since I was 25. I've only had two serious relationships (one for about 6 months when I was 18 and the other for a year and a half at age 24-25). I've had friends and family try to set me up on blind dates from time to time but in all honesty, I'm just not all that interested in dating and tell them no thanks. When I've pictured myself in the future, I can see myself having kids and would like to be a dad, but I just can't see myself in a serious relationship, mainly from lack of interest. Is this weird?
According to a certain thread on this forum, it's not only weird, but a crime against humanity. LOL!!!

But no, I don't think this is weird.
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Old 07-15-2019, 11:40 PM
 
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According to a certain thread on this forum, it's not only weird, but a crime against humanity. LOL!!!

Yes, this is most definitely a crime against womankind ;-) Joking of course. You do what makes you happy and makes sense for your life.
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Old 07-16-2019, 07:18 AM
 
Location: Oklahoma City, OK
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Hey, good for you! You could be like me, a man who wants relationship/marriage/kids and has no opportunities. If you're ok being alone, more power to ya.
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Old 07-16-2019, 07:42 AM
 
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I'm a 37 year old guy and have been single since I was 25. I've only had two serious relationships (one for about 6 months when I was 18 and the other for a year and a half at age 24-25). I've had friends and family try to set me up on blind dates from time to time but in all honesty, I'm just not all that interested in dating and tell them no thanks. When I've pictured myself in the future, I can see myself having kids and would like to be a dad, but I just can't see myself in a serious relationship, mainly from lack of interest. Is this weird?

Sounds like you found out a serious relationship is way more difficult than expected.
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Old 07-16-2019, 07:43 AM
 
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Everyone is different. If you indeed cannot see yourself in LTR then its probably better that way, for what its worth.

For myself, I think relationships are great for two main reasons: 1.) you always have a steady sex partner and dont have to worry about ways to get through to them to "get some". Also, no need to worry about STDs and all that crap.
2.) Unless someone is really well off, it really is an optimal social construct to live together and rip the benefits of double income. I remember when I lived with a girlfriend for several years everything was so easy. I was at least +$500 every months by virtue of splitting living expenses. I really miss that now, and even though I make an ok living, I think for my next apartment I will be moving in with a roommate. I really need to build some equity at this point in the game.
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Old 07-16-2019, 07:50 AM
 
Location: Ohio
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OP, have you considered adoption? It's now legal in all 50 states for a single person to adopt.
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Old 07-16-2019, 01:44 PM
 
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I used to hate being single, but as I approach 50 (next April), I've come to see that that's how it's gonna be weither I want it that way or not, so yeah, I'm content with it.
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