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Old 07-21-2019, 09:51 AM
 
Location: Oklahoma City, OK
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I'm sad it hasn't worked for you. Me neither. I think (maybe still a little positive) hat a lot has to do with the apps/site themselves. Those that attract the most people are, by math logic, those that serve the lowest common denominator. In short, if you're a person that wants more, or has more to give than hookups are often left on the curb. You are worth it but the way things are presented doe not help you? It sure does not help me. Same woman, same pic: If I change the age, I go from a few to a TON of responses. I don't want THAT. I want an adult site for adults with OTHER CONCERNS just beauty and youth. ADULTS concerns. For some it's kids, for others, fear of dying alone, but very few want to hang out alone forever, and there should be, there MUST BE such places but I don't know them. Yet
1000% agree. I did change my age based on the advice of a professional service! They passed my pics around and guessed how old I looked...7 years younger than I am. I have a great reason for it. I still want kids and am sick of women 55+ coming after me. I'm a youthful guy. If you find the right sight, please let me know. I've yet to find it also.
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Old 07-21-2019, 09:54 AM
 
Location: Oklahoma City, OK
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About being a psychologist... understand that just like MD doctors, we are often specialists (especially the ones NOT in private practice: the ppl I deal with are addicts and street people; I don't get to think about "picket fences" and even more "normal" things often. So forgive my ignorance in where to meet like minded men. I would even like to meet women from outside the profession. "Meetups" and things of that nature have turned up very old ppl (idea wise) or very young ppl.*when based on common interests). I'm truly at a "social" loss.
Same experience with meetup where I live....too old, too young, social misfits, etc. I went to a "singles" event at a country club on Thursday. I was the youngest there for about an hour. Then 2 gorgeous women showed up and a man immediately got to them and that was that. I left not having spoken to anyone.
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Old 07-21-2019, 11:49 AM
 
Location: Las Vegas
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I think they check the wanting children box to get younger women!
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Old 07-21-2019, 04:42 PM
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Location: Texas
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1000% agree. I did change my age based on the advice of a professional service! They passed my pics around and guessed how old I looked...7 years younger than I am. I have a great reason for it. I still want kids and am sick of women 55+ coming after me. I'm a youthful guy. If you find the right sight, please let me know. I've yet to find it also.
What happens when they find out your real age, though? I dated someone briefly who knocked ten years off his age. He said he was 39, he was 49. I found his driver's license, briefly glanced at it, and found he lied. Sure, he could pass for being 39. He was a dark-skinned Italian with no wrinkles or sun damage. But the lie bothered me because I felt he was only playing around with me.
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Old 07-21-2019, 06:30 PM
 
Location: Oklahoma City, OK
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What happens when they find out your real age, though? I dated someone briefly who knocked ten years off his age. He said he was 39, he was 49. I found his driver's license, briefly glanced at it, and found he lied. Sure, he could pass for being 39. He was a dark-skinned Italian with no wrinkles or sun damage. But the lie bothered me because I felt he was only playing around with me.
I guess we will see. I honestly donít know what else to do. I will simply tell the truth ASAP and say I did it because I got tired of old women emailing me. I donít want a cougar.
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Old 07-21-2019, 07:19 PM
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Location: Texas
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I don’t want a cougar.
A lot of these women in their 50s are saying it's the prime time in life because their kids are grown, and now they can "go out and have fun." Seems to me their fun is somewhat limited if men no longer find them attractive, and are looking for younger women. Something I've tried to explain to women who think it must be horrible for me to be an older mom. But I'm glad I'm taking care of young kids in my 50s, not desperately trying to use dating apps to find men. You should make it clear to them they are past the age range you are looking for. No reason to pity them.
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Old 07-22-2019, 04:04 AM
 
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People may say they want children at 40 but after having them you hit around 45 and your own body says ‘this was a bad idea.’

Imagine a 4 year old running away and now in your mid 40’s you have to chase them or even catch them. Hahaha! At my age if my hat blows off my head and rolls away my thought is to let it go I’ll get another one. Hahaha!
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Old 07-22-2019, 05:14 AM
 
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People may say they want children at 40 but after having them you hit around 45 and your own body says ‘this was a bad idea.’

Imagine a 4 year old running away and now in your mid 40’s you have to chase them or even catch them. Hahaha! At my age if my hat blows off my head and rolls away my thought is to let it go I’ll get another one. Hahaha!

Crap, saw this woman on Match one time, no kids and never married. So same as myself there, ideal situation for me....except that she had, "Wants kids: Definitely" I was thinking (she's crazy).

And she's 45! At that point, having kids completely lost its appeal with me...granted, I wanted them when I was in my 20s to early 30s. But not now, zilch. Isn't mid-40s when menopause starts?

Doesn't a woman's eggs stop dropping at that point? Guess it depends on the woman. I heard there's a book of Guinness of a woman having kids at 60-something.

ON top of that, she'll be meeting a ton of single dads that have tied it in a knot probably. No longer wanting kids since they already have them.

Plus if you're mid-40s, you still have to consider the amount of time it would take you to find a husband. That could take years and dating may take a while for this woman. SHe'll probably be in her 50s or older if she's picky. And with all these a**holes women keep meeting online, it's likely a very small percentage she'll find a middle-aged man wanting kids.

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Old 07-22-2019, 05:17 AM
 
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A lot of these women in their 50s are saying it's the prime time in life because their kids are grown, and now they can "go out and have fun." Seems to me their fun is somewhat limited if men no longer find them attractive, and are looking for younger women. Something I've tried to explain to women who think it must be horrible for me to be an older mom. But I'm glad I'm taking care of young kids in my 50s, not desperately trying to use dating apps to find men. You should make it clear to them they are past the age range you are looking for. No reason to pity them.
Shoot, I've seen my share of hot ladies in their 50s. Usually it's due to good genes and diet.
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Old 07-22-2019, 06:02 AM
 
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I'm so happy for you There is a max time to have a child; if there has to be a partner too, there is no max age there Now imagine trying to conceive, and your partner has the money but refuses to lend it to you (I'm a victim a medical malpractice, but in Canada, it's tough luck, litigation does not work often and had a cap $ on it, By lying over YEARS, the malpractice made me miss the age at which my eggs had to be frozen. ). I should leave him running, but there is SUCH a negative on being a single mom (in IVF procedures) that I stay with him just so I qualify as a "couple". I feel so stuck... not really free to meet like-minded men (and they would be rare so I'd have to meet many), and not knowing where to look! but I WANT TO BE A MOTHER SO BAD AND FOR SO LONG IT HURTS!!!

Wait, so you're in a relationship? This is messed up.
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