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Old 07-17-2019, 08:07 PM
 
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So lets start with saying i have been seeing for the past 10 month my co-worker who is 17 years younger than me...we have fantastic memories of several trips we took together me and him alone and he says he loves me...he is 22 and i am 39....we are not official and i see him hanging out with women at work...he wants us to stay private at work and not talking at work...i dont know how to feell about it and couple of his female friends his age give me dirty looks and yes probably crush on him...is there any hope for us ?

 
Old 07-17-2019, 09:36 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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So lets start with saying i have been seeing for the past 10 month my co-worker who is 17 years younger than me...we have fantastic memories of several trips we took together me and him alone and he says he loves me...he is 22 and i am 39....we are not official and i see him hanging out with women at work...he wants us to stay private at work and not talking at work...i dont know how to feell about it and couple of his female friends his age give me dirty looks and yes probably crush on him...is there any hope for us ?
Hope for what?

A relationship? No

Gossip and misery at work? Yes, that is the most likely scenario.
 
Old 07-17-2019, 09:53 PM
 
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We are in a relationship
 
Old 07-17-2019, 09:56 PM
 
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I think he might "Ashton Kutcher" you in a couple of years. Proceed with caution.
 
Old 07-17-2019, 10:01 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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We are in a relationship
YOU said you're not official.

What you've described sounds more like a fling than a relationship.
 
Old 07-17-2019, 10:06 PM
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Location: Pacific Northwest
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We are in a relationship
He's having a fling with you, not a relationship.

If he truly cared about you, he wouldn't hide you away and ignore you, while chatting (and possibly flirting) with the other women at work.

You and him are on borrowed time.
 
Old 07-17-2019, 10:16 PM
 
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We done it like this for the past year.our closest friends know about us.
 
Old 07-17-2019, 10:18 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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We done it like this for the past year.our closest friends know about us.
Congrats!

It's not sustainable though, given his age and your jealousy.
 
Old 07-17-2019, 10:21 PM
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We done it like this for the past year.our closest friends know about us.
That's worse, IMO.

If he was serious about you, then he should be at the stage to celebrate your relationship (and possibly make a commitment), NOT continue to hide it.
 
Old 07-17-2019, 10:42 PM
 
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So lets start with saying i have been seeing for the past 10 month my co-worker who is 17 years younger than me...we have fantastic memories of several trips we took together me and him alone and he says he loves me...he is 22 and i am 39....we are not official and i see him hanging out with women at work...he wants us to stay private at work and not talking at work...i dont know how to feell about it and couple of his female friends his age give me dirty looks and yes probably crush on him...is there any hope for us ?
You have to know since you are 39, a 22 year old guy (21 when it started) is not looking for a happily-ever-after relationship, particularly if he is requiring the relationship be kept secret after 10 months and it still isn't official. Then you are lurking after him to see who he is "hanging out with at work" when he has told you that you are not officially together. You answered your own question, didn't you?
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