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Old 07-28-2019, 05:22 PM
 
Location: East of Seattle since 1992, originally from SF Bay Area
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Don't women have bachelorette parties with male strippers too though? So isn't it just as much of a concern for the boyfriend and husbands?
I have seen a few of the bachelorettes around the casinos while in Las Vegas, and they do get pretty wild and crazy. People tend to do things they normally wouldn’t when drunk. I think it’s that people really take that phrase literally, that whatever happens in Vegas stays in Vegas.

 
Old 07-28-2019, 07:22 PM
 
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I think it's ok.

And don't let your "friends" fill your head with garbage.
 
Old 07-28-2019, 09:21 PM
 
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Don't women have bachelorette parties with male strippers too though? So isn't it just as much of a concern for the boyfriend and husbands?
We have our bachelorette parties with male strippers, but it's probably not much of a concern for our boyfriends and husbands because they know most of us are not stupid or desperate enough to get with a stripper or prostitute at a party. If they are concerned, they are probably thinking how they would be and projecting it on us~!
 
Old 07-31-2019, 04:24 AM
 
Location: NNJ
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We have our bachelorette parties with male strippers, but it's probably not much of a concern for our boyfriends and husbands because they know most of us are not stupid or desperate enough to get with a stripper or prostitute at a party. If they are concerned, they are probably thinking how they would be and projecting it on us~!
So hopefully the opposite is also true....
 
Old 07-31-2019, 08:08 PM
 
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How would you feel?
How do you feel? Do you think he will cheat?
 
Old 07-31-2019, 10:56 PM
 
Location: new to the BA & l o v e it
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How do you feel? Do you think he will cheat?
I feel lovely......

& NO.....he won't....or he would have no reason to move in with me..........
 
Old 08-01-2019, 03:23 PM
 
Location: Santa Monica, Ca
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I feel lovely......

& NO.....he won't....or he would have no reason to move in with me..........
Didn’t you feel the same way about the guy in your “taking back your life” thread? The one where he was dating another at the same time and impregnated her?

( Not mocking you... you just never know.) it sucks! Lol
 
Old 08-01-2019, 03:59 PM
 
Location: new to the BA & l o v e it
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Didn’t you feel the same way about the guy in your “taking back your life” thread? The one where he was dating another at the same time and impregnated her?

( Not mocking you... you just never know.) it sucks! Lol
Every relationship is different tho.....if I treated every new guy I dated with the same suspicion & blamed him for what my ex did......I would be one jaded & suspecting girl who would be very unhappy in life....& never open myself to new beginnings. The relationship I have so far....is on SO many different levels than the one I had with my ex.......& having that experience behind me....is part of why I feel lots of confidence in this one. It could still maybe not work out....I know....eyes wide open BUT don't permanently shut them. A N D....he has shown me all kinds of ways I can trust him.......

You have to take precautions ofc....& part of that is knowing the person better than I knew my ex. I'm older....wiser....& we are taking it slower. My ex was in a hurry to marry me...& make it official....& we married too soon. He had to rope me in...before I found out. We also never hung out with his friends or family ....& now I know why. My current Bf is completely different & transparent...........& I love love love it!

I don't wanna operate from mistrust in my new relationship .......cause of my ex.....or hold my current Bf responsible for the pain or anger my ex caused........that's part of healing, tho & not carrying around the baggage with you. If you do....it just means you are not ready to be in a new relationship...........
 
Old 08-01-2019, 07:14 PM
 
Location: Santa Monica, Ca
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I am not suggesting that you be suspicious of every guy.. the point was that “you never know”. You buy your ticket and you take your chances. You were pretty quick to defend your present SO. You totally trust him. Would you have not done the same with your ex a-hole, before you found out he was an a-hole? Did you trust him? Did you ever think he’d have cheated? Did he ever give you a reason to mistrust him before he gave you a reason to not trust him? Relationships are a crap shoot at best.
 
Old 08-01-2019, 07:33 PM
 
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Its true its a crap shoot but I am curious, I am sure most ladies on this forum have had relationships. Some might be married to their first love with never an issue but most will have had a few relationships.

Did you get a sense from the get go who was a cheater?

I always did. Ofc when one is young and inexperienced we dont like to think about it, but arent there little alarm bells going off?

I have about 15 years of dating experience in one of biggest singles metropolitan areas in the US so I think I have encountered nearly every type of man. It was pretty easy to read all of them though its only in hindsight that I know my instincts were right. I know the ones that went on to be faithfully married and the ones that keep reaching out to me despite being married.
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