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Old 08-03-2019, 11:18 AM
 
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A lot of people are agreeing, I do too, it’s an entertainment thing. A celebration of the last “single” days, but not everyone needs that demarcation in modern times, or even recognizes it. Some continue to see dancing girls with their buddies after marriage, what was the big hoopla about seeing some right before the big day?

I’ve been to a few bachelorette parties, it’s been at least 20 years though! Not everyone is on board or “into” that. If my 20 something daughter were to get married, I know if I asked her if she was going to mark the day by finding a frisky guy in a Speedo to act out on her, she’d tell me that’s perverted, and it’s an awful idea, suited to someone way more sexualized or who can’t tell their friends they don’t want that kind of “honor” planned for them.

Here’s where men and women may be different, and yes that has nothing to do with “letting” anyone do anything, it’s just accepting the fact that everyone clearly feels different about this sort of ritual. I feel people should have right to reserve their decision not to go. Not make a big judge-y stink about it in the process, but the point was not as many women get excited about the half naked guy thing. Maybe some men feel pressured, too. Just a thought.
I’ve been to plenty of those male stripper things in my day. It’s always just a girls night out a chance to hoot and holler, it’s really not a sexual experience as much as just laughing together.

 
Old 08-03-2019, 11:20 AM
 
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There's a small subset of guys that are into it, and the vast majority of guys that prefers not to waste their time and money.
So they should “honor” their friend by doing that anyway?
 
Old 08-03-2019, 11:21 AM
 
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I’ve been to plenty of those male stripper things in my day. It’s always just a girls night out a chance to hoot and holler, it’s really not a sexual experience as much as just laughing together.
Which can be done anywhere, and more often these days is.
 
Old 08-03-2019, 11:24 AM
 
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So they should “honor” their friend by doing that anyway?
If you don't want to leave that friend and best man/woman wondering why none of their closest friends/family showed up to their "once in a lifetime" final premarital party, then yes.

I live on a rock in the middle of the ocean, and we typically have people flying in from all parts of the country for these parties, so it is a pretty big deal around here.
 
Old 08-03-2019, 11:25 AM
 
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Which can be done anywhere, and more often these days is.
There really aren’t many entertainment venues were you can do that though, where there’s actually a show. Outside of Las Vegas. Just getting a private room in the back of a restaurant or something would be boring compared to that. It’s the booze and the show that are the catalysts for the laughter and letting loose. It’s funny to watch your 30 years married conservative Aunt letting loose and laughing while grinding her hips with a 23-year-old hottie.
 
Old 08-03-2019, 11:26 AM
 
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If you don't want to leave that friend and best man/woman wondering why none of their closest friends showed up to their "once in a lifetime" final premarital party, then yes.
They’ll be alone wondering why the kind of event no one showed up for them was planned.
 
Old 08-03-2019, 11:30 AM
 
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They’ll be alone wondering why the kind of event no one showed up for them was planned.
I don’t think that normally happens. Most people are attending the party for their friend not for the entertainment itself. Most people are not gonna let their best friends down and not attend their bachelor or bachelorette party.
 
Old 08-03-2019, 11:31 AM
 
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There really aren’t many entertainment venues were you can do that though, where there’s actually a show. Outside of Las Vegas.
Which is exactly my point, there aren’t many venues for “that” half dressed dancing people. Doing “that” has really lost its place in a demarcation point / one in a lifetime event, when we all know it’s not a once-in-a-lifetime event for everyone anymore. People get married, divorced, not married...open marriages. I’m just saying it’s a pretty outdated concept (in my opinion only) to involve opposite sex scantily clad entertainment, when there are other ways to celebrate. That’s why when you replied: “back in the day” I thought you were getting my point.
 
Old 08-03-2019, 11:34 AM
 
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I don’t think that normally happens. Most people are attending the party for their friend not for the entertainment itself. Most people are not gonna let their best friends down and not attend their bachelor or bachelorette party.
No, they aren’t (going to let their friend down). We don’t all agree on what’s entertaining, apparently.
 
Old 08-03-2019, 11:44 AM
 
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Which is exactly my point, there aren’t many venues for “that” half dressed dancing people. Doing “that” has really lost its place in a demarcation point / one in a lifetime event, when we all know it’s not a once-in-a-lifetime event for everyone anymore. People get married, divorced, not married...open marriages. I’m just saying it’s a pretty outdated concept (in my opinion only) to involve opposite sex scantily clad entertainment, when there are other ways to celebrate. That’s why when you replied: “back in the day” I thought you were getting my point.
BUT our subject is bachelor & bachelorette parties........& not open marriages or going to strip clubs for other reasons......
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