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I don’t think that normally happens. Most people are attending the party for their friend not for the entertainment itself. Most people are not gonna let their best friends down and not attend their bachelor or bachelorette party.
Which is exactly my point, there aren’t many venues for “that” half dressed dancing people. Doing “that” has really lost its place in a demarcation point / one in a lifetime event, when we all know it’s not a once-in-a-lifetime event for everyone anymore. People get married, divorced, not married...open marriages. I’m just saying it’s a pretty outdated concept (in my opinion only) to involve opposite sex scantily clad entertainment, when there are other ways to celebrate. That’s why when you replied: “back in the day” I thought you were getting my point.
I think it’s hard and a lot of responsibility to be in charge of the bachelor or bachelorette party. There’s really not that many ways to celebrate that don’t cost a lot of money and provide entertainment. Most entertainment venues are either music where you can’t really hear each other and talk and have fun, or they’re venues where you can’t make a lot of noise yourself. What are the many other ways there are of especially young people going out and partying and letting go as a group? I don’t think it’s that easy to come up with things. Parties like this have been part of bachelor parties for decades and decades. I wouldn’t want one myself but if I were 25 I might. I don’t know that it’s outdated to younger people. Especially since the girls are so much prettier than they were 30 years ago.
My nieces bachelorette party was at a Toby Keith concert. I am pretty liberal, and at the time I had been protesting us going to war in Iraq. I did not want to go to a country music concert. I had to sit there and listen to him say stupid things like “let’s go kick some camel butt!” except he didn’t use the word butt. I was against going to war in the first place and I found the whole thing as ridiculous and stupid as I feared it would be (there were young guys with confederate flags draped around them!).
I think it’s hard and a lot of responsibility to be in charge of the bachelor or bachelorette party. There’s really not that many ways to celebrate that don’t cost a lot of money and provide entertainment. Most entertainment venues are either music where you can’t really hear each other and talk and have fun, or they’re venues where you can’t make a lot of noise yourself. What are the many other ways there are of especially young people going out and partying and letting go as a group? I don’t think it’s that easy to come up with things. Parties like this have been part of bachelor parties for decades and decades. I wouldn’t want one myself but if I were 25 I might. I don’t know that it’s outdated to younger people. Especially since the girls are so much prettier than they were 30 years ago.
Yeah, getting creative. What does the bachelor/bachelorette like? Concerts, art, wine making, football... person centered things. Most wont reply: “Near nakedness, only!”
Speaking of planning the party, that’s the reason for my puzzlement at this, too. Planning isn’t easy, but it’s a group decision when more than one person is involved in how they want to honor their friend/relative. I would like to have attended my new sister in laws “party”, her friends decided to rent a cabin for the weekend. I missed out on a lot of fun, I like the excitement and laughs shared by younger women, too! When the planning went into I just don’t picture a lot of suggestions about where to fit a half naked man in. I guess they could have had one come in on a boat, to take them fishing...but mosquitoes, so no, not practical for all situations.
Btw: yeah, strippers are seemingly more attractive than in “our day”.
Yeah, getting creative. What does the bachelor/bachelorette like? Concerts, art, wine making, football... person centered things. Most wont reply: “Near nakedness, only!”
Exactly. Strippers at a bachelor/ette party is a tired and sleazy idea. Lots of people do an escape room or go axe throwing or camping or rent an air BnB in wine country or go to the casino. It's really not that hard to think of non-stripper activities, especially if you're planning for a friend, whose interests you should know already.
My nieces bachelorette party was at a Toby Keith concert. I am pretty liberal, and at the time I had been protesting us going to war in Iraq. I did not want to go to a country music concert. I had to sit there and listen to him say stupid things like “let’s go kick some camel butt!” except he didn’t use the word butt. I was against going to war in the first place and I found the whole thing as ridiculous and stupid as I feared it would be (there were young guys with confederate flags draped around them!).
I would never have considered not going.
So there are times you don’t just show up, because you must support a friend. Send a card.
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My nieces bachelorette party was at a Toby Keith concert. I am pretty liberal, and at the time I had been protesting us going to war in Iraq. I did not want to go to a country music concert. I had to sit there and listen to him say stupid things like “let’s go kick some camel butt!” except he didn’t use the word butt. I was against going to war in the first place and I found the whole thing as ridiculous and stupid as I feared it would be (there were young guys with confederate flags draped around them!).
I would never have considered not going.
I don't have any nieces....BUT it is kinda awful to think of going to a bachelorette party for a relative like that......so you were better off it was a concert! I wouldn't want my mom or grandma around....if there was gonna be a half naked guy dancing....but some don't care.....& I dunno, maybe she would like it!
Exactly. Strippers at a bachelor/ette party is a tired and sleazy idea. Lots of people do an escape room or go axe throwing or camping or rent an air BnB in wine country or go to the casino. It's really not that hard to think of non-stripper activities, especially if you're planning for a friend, whose interests you should know already.
Thanks, I didn’t want to be the one to say it, but yeah sleazy and old.
Yeah, getting creative. What does the bachelor/bachelorette like? Concerts, art, wine making, football... person centered things. Most wont reply: “Near nakedness, only!”
Speaking of planning the party, that’s the reason for my puzzlement at this, too. Planning isn’t easy, but it’s a group decision when more than one person is involved in how they want to honor their friend/relative. I would like to have attended my new sister in laws “party”, her friends decided to rent a cabin for the weekend. I missed out on a lot of fun, I like the excitement and laughs shared by younger women, too! When the planning went into I just don’t picture a lot of suggestions about where to fit a half naked man in. I guess they could have had one come in on a boat, to take them fishing...but mosquitoes, so no, not practical for all situations.
Btw: yeah, strippers are seemingly more attractive than in “our day”.
But again, a lot of younger people do want this party experience. There are people who do art and other things. But a lot of people especially people in their 20s, one of the big party. They want crazy memories to remember 20 years from now. That’s why Las Vegas is still the most popular spot for both bachelor and bachelorette parties, because that’s with the bride and the party want. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. I feel like the people who do choose this are being judged as not creative enough or so somehow doing something wrong. Most especially by the people who say they would let down their friends and not even go if it were held at such a place. I feel like people are taking the whole thing too seriously. It’s just an environment to get drunk and stupid and let their hair down for people who want that kind of party before they get married.
Thanks, I didn’t want to be the one to say it, but yeah sleazy and old.
If you’re 23, it’s not old to you.
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I wouldn't want my mom or grandma around....if there was gonna be a half naked guy dancing....but some don't care.....& I dunno, maybe she would like it! 
