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Old Yesterday, 10:27 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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it has to do with it because I was comparing it to the kinda guy who likes going to strip shows....outside of bachelor parties...........
That's just a stereotype you're carrying, though. It's by no means indicative of anything.

I took RbbcL's point to be that MANY guys who aren't basement dwellers, deep down, enjoy looking at naked women dancing (why wouldn't they?), and a bachelor party is a socially safe opportunity for them to exercise that urge.

"Supporting a friend" is the socially acceptable reason they give their wives/GFs for doing it.

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Old Yesterday, 10:34 AM
 
Location: New to Bay Area
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That's just a stereotype you're carrying, though. It's by no means indicative of anything.

I took Rbccl's point to be that MANY guys who aren't basement dwellers, deep down, enjoy looking at naked women dancing (why wouldn't they?), and a bachelor party is a socially safe opportunity for them to exercise that urge.

"Supporting a friend" is the socially acceptable reason they give their wives/GFs for doing it.
I didn't say they would look away if they were there, tho.......I said that most guys in healthy relationships don't go to strip clubs ......when they have a healthy physical intimate relationship at home.....

A bachelor party is different than going by yourself......or regularly.....& if they are doing that, it doesn't matter what excuse they give, no girl with any self esteem would put up with it...........it's different than one bachelor party for a best friend.....

I could not imagine being with a man like that........but maybe there are some out there that tolerate it & are happy......I wouldn't be tho.

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Old Yesterday, 10:40 AM
 
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Are some of you itt really claiming you only tolerate the male strippers because its what your friend wanted? If your friend is hiring male strippers for her bachelorette party its because she wants to. Its not for laughs or just the rite of passage of the bachelorette party..."Everybody gets strippers. You have to!" And if you go its because you enjoy it too.

Frankly I think I'd be concerned about any friend I had that actually did that, wanting naked men throwing their penii around, as a way to celebrate entering holy matrimony. Its bizarre behavior.

I wonder if people itt who wont admit that are just being deliberately obtuse.

And its not about me being middle aged or a prude.
 
Old Yesterday, 11:02 AM
 
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Are some of you itt really claiming you only tolerate the male strippers because its what your friend wanted? If your friend is hiring male strippers for her bachelorette party its because she wants to. Its not for laughs or just the rite of passage of the bachelorette party..."Everybody gets strippers. You have to!" And if you go its because you enjoy it too.

Frankly I think I'd be concerned about any friend I had that actually did that, wanting naked men throwing their penii around, as a way to celebrate entering holy matrimony. Its bizarre behavior.

I wonder if people itt who wont admit that are just being deliberately obtuse.

And its not about me being middle aged or a prude.
Yes, I do think it has a lot to do with being middle-aged. Most of the people who are having these kind of parties are young people. And we’re judging them through middle-aged eyes.
 
Old Yesterday, 11:15 AM
 
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Yes, I do think it has a lot to do with being middle-aged. Most of the people who are having these kind of parties are young people. And we’re judging them through middle-aged eyes.
I agree, alot of the tone in this thread has the feel of grandmas yelling at kids to "get off their lawn".
 
Old Yesterday, 11:18 AM
 
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Yes, I do think it has a lot to do with being middle-aged. Most of the people who are having these kind of parties are young people. And we’re judging them through middle-aged eyes.
Well Im not that old. Im in my early 40s.

But my point is, are people really claiming they hire strippers not for the nude dancing, but for some other reason?

If they hire the strippers its because they enjoy the nude dancing, thats my point.
 
Old Yesterday, 11:44 AM
 
Location: New to Bay Area
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Yes, I do think it has a lot to do with being middle-aged. Most of the people who are having these kind of parties are young people. And we’re judging them through middle-aged eyes.
Yes...& it also has a lot to do with turning one party into a "he goes all the time & loves it" thing....& that's silly. That's just insecurity IMO if you think you don't measure up or that he will like some girl that is paid to dance on a stage more than you.......& total lack of confidence in your man & relationship. You would know if he is going on his own & giving you excuses about it that it's for his friends.........if there was no wedding invitation for his friend....Lol.... & then you kick him to the curb.
 
Old Yesterday, 11:49 AM
 
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Yes...& it also has a lot to do with turning one party into a "he goes all the time & loves it" thing....& that's silly. That's just insecurity IMO if you think you don't measure up or that he will like some girl that is paid to dance on a stage more than you.......& total lack of confidence in your man & relationship. You would know if he is going on his own & giving you excuses about it that it's for his friends.........if there was no wedding invitation for his friend....Lol.... & then you kick him to the curb.
Besides all this, you do reaize your man is going to get aroused by the stripper?
 
Old Yesterday, 11:55 AM
 
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Besides all this, you do reaize your man is going to get aroused by the stripper?
Oh goodness - I hope so! We are gonna have so much fun when we get home!
 
Old Yesterday, 11:59 AM
 
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Oh goodness - I hope so! We are gonna have so much fun when we get home!
How would you feel about your man putting a porno on while having sex with you? And looking at the screen instead of you?
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