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Old Today, 04:03 PM
 
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What isn't so fine.......is a man always going to strip clubs & having to pay for it in cash to hide it from his wife or Gf....like some guy said before.
The poster who said this made it clear his wife was fine with him going to strip clubs, she just didn't want to see it on the credit card statements. There's nothing wrong with that - similar to buying things from certain places online, or from certain types of stores. Some just people don't want documentation of certain activities on their statements. He is absolutely respecting her by stopping at the ATM for cash instead, just as she requested.

 
Old Today, 04:09 PM
 
Location: New to Bay Area
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The poster who said this made it clear his wife was fine with him going to strip clubs, she just didn't want to see it on the credit card statements. There's nothing wrong with that - similar to buying things from certain places online, or from certain types of stores. Some just people don't want documentation of certain activities on their statements. He is absolutely respecting her by stopping at the ATM for cash instead, just as she requested.
Since she doesn't want to know about it.....that means she doesn't like it tho. So for him to keep going is disrespectful IMO.....but it is their relationship.................I wouldn't want one like it.
 
Old Today, 04:13 PM
 
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Early in my marriage, one time I used a CC at a bar, when the CC statement came in the mail my Dw got mad at me. What she told me was whenever I go to a bar, I should stop at a bank first to get cash, and only spend cash at the bar. So she would only see the cash withdrawl on the monthly CC statements.

She specifically does not want to see 'Freds striptease bar' [or anything like that] on a CC statement.

She does not care if I go to a strip club. She does not want to see any evidence that I have gone to one.
Taking the post at face value, she does not care - there is no disrespect.
 
Old Today, 04:17 PM
 
Location: New to Bay Area
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Taking the post at face value, she does not care - there is no disrespect.
If she didn't care....she woudn't care about seeing it on the credit card tho........
 
Old Today, 04:21 PM
 
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If she didn't care....she woudn't care about seeing it on the credit card tho........
They are two separate issues. Maybe she doesn't want the credit card people seeing "Fred's striptease bar" on the statement, or her kids if they wander through the bills or open the wrong envelope. You are putting words into the mouth of a woman who is not involved in this thread and cannot defend her position.

Take it at face value, she does not care if he goes to strip clubs. The only disrespect would be if he were to continue to use his credit card there.
 
Old Today, 04:25 PM
 
Location: New to Bay Area
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They are two separate issues. Maybe she doesn't want the credit card people seeing "Fred's striptease bar" on the statement, or her kids if they wander through the bills or open the wrong envelope. You are putting words into the mouth of a woman who is not involved in this thread and cannot defend her position.

Take it at face value, she does not care if he goes to strip clubs. The only disrespect would be if he were to continue to use his credit card there.
But we don't know why he feels he has to go to them......so .....I see it as disrespectful & very different than a bachelor party one time.......JMHO.....
 
Old Today, 04:27 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Take it at face value, she does not care if he goes to strip clubs. The only disrespect would be if he were to continue to use his credit card there.
"Not caring" and "not wanting to know" are two very different things.
 
Old Today, 04:29 PM
 
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But we don't know why he feels he has to go to them......so .....I see it as disrespectful & very different than a bachelor party one time.......JMHO.....
It doesn't matter why he goes to strip clubs. This thread, your thread, is about how the ladies feel. This lady does not care, her only issue is paperwork. That's fair, and he is respecting her wishes.

I've said as much as I can on this issue - you seem determined to make him a bad guy, yet he's done nothing wrong. I likely won't change your mind (and vice versa).
 
Old Today, 04:31 PM
 
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They are two separate issues. Maybe she doesn't want the credit card people seeing "Fred's striptease bar" on the statement, or her kids if they wander through the bills or open the wrong envelope. You are putting words into the mouth of a woman who is not involved in this thread and cannot defend her position.

Take it at face value, she does not care if he goes to strip clubs. The only disrespect would be if he were to continue to use his credit card there.
I agree with Tasha here. She probably does care but she might fear speaking up?

Just because you dont mind your husband fking you to porn doesnt mean everyone is so liberal about this kind of thing.

People have different standards. Unless the CC dude is a well known politician or they are trying to get approved for some huge loan and are always audited, she probably hated seeing the Truck Stop Tittie Bar on the statement.
 
Old Today, 04:32 PM
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Location: Pacific Northwest
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But we don't know why he feels he has to go to them......so .....I see it as disrespectful & very different than a bachelor party one time.......JMHO.....
Actually, we DO know why he feels the way he does, as he's talked about the celibacy in his relationship that's spanned over 3 decades. He's mentioned it multiple times in previous posts concerning his wife.

Whether him going to strip clubs is disrespectful or not, is between him and his wife. Issues in relationships aren't always cut and dried, and where each couple places their boundaries is up to them and only them.
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