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Old Today, 06:58 PM
 
Location: Forests of Maine
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Could be any number of things, maybe SHE doesn't make any effort to be sexy for her man, maybe she takes for granted that he'll always be there. Maybe, she doesn't want to spice up her love life with him, maybe all of this is the case and, she knows it, but has the nerve to say what she would or wouldn't put up with (because she's insecure). Guys aint putting up with it today either.
My Dw is naturally inclined to be 'asexual'. But we did not know this in 1980. Today a lot more is known about sexuality.

35 years ago my Dw injured her back, which caused nerve damage, which caused her to go directly through menopause when we were both 25. The doctors could not 'diagnose' menopause at the time, because one of the factors had to be 50+ years of age. All they could say was that she had zero estrogen. She has a family history of cervical cancers so she was not able to use HRT. Her genitals atrophied, any attempt to stretch the skin causes abrasions, bleeding and a great deal of pain.

She is a fair skinned red hair and her skin is naturally allergic to most skin lotions, lubricants, and many soaps.

I vowed to stay with her through sickness and health, so I will not divorce her.

 
Old Today, 07:11 PM
 
Location: Forests of Maine
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Since she doesn't want to know about it.....that means she doesn't like it tho. So for him to keep going is disrespectful IMO.....but it is their relationship.................I wouldn't want one like it.
My Dw is aware that there are other people who have sex. She just does not want to be reminded of it. She prefers to live a lifestyle where she never has to think about the topic. Her friends have learned that it will not be tolerated in conversation.

I have not been to a strip club in many years.

The point of my previous post was that my Dw does not want to see evidence on our monthly CC statements that I went to such a place.
 
Old Today, 07:11 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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My Dw is naturally inclined to be 'asexual'. But we did not know this in 1980. Today a lot more is known about sexuality.

35 years ago my Dw injured her back, which caused nerve damage, which caused her to go directly through menopause when we were both 25. The doctors could not 'diagnose' menopause at the time, because one of the factors had to be 50+ years of age. All they could say was that she had zero estrogen. She has a family history of cervical cancers so she was not able to use HRT. Her genitals atrophied, any attempt to stretch the skin causes abrasions, bleeding and a great deal of pain.

She is a fair skinned red hair and her skin is naturally allergic to most skin lotions, lubricants, and many soaps.

I vowed to stay with her through sickness and health, so I will not divorce her.
Your wife is your wife. She deserves the respect of that. I've read your posts over the years and I've felt bad for the situation. It's tough for sure.

People need to to do what they have to do. What you and your wife agree to is no one's business and frankly anyone that doesn't like whatever life style choices a married couple decides upon can go pound sand.
 
Old Today, 07:26 PM
 
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I would not mind my husband going to a friend or relative's bachelor party (not likely to happened anymore because of age and illness) but if he was, it would be fine if the party was similar to the type he had himself at age 25 and attended for others when younger. It was held at a close-by bar and restaurant (an independent in a 100 year-old building) and was a small gathering, maybe 6 guys. There was no nudity involved (families eat there too), just drinking, eating, visiting, and a few toasts to the groom-to-be. And designated drivers.
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