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Old Yesterday, 11:09 AM
 
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I understand why people put in there profile. I know I bring nothing but tranquility to a relationship (no unhealthy co-parenting, no crazy ex, no disrespectful friends, financial assets, etc. --with exception of a silly picardlx online alter ego ) and I demand the same. Nothing wrong with articulating this in a succinct phrase: no drama. Did I ever use it myself when on OLD, no. But, I get it.
How can you know what is coming up in your life, though? What if your partner gets really sick or gets into legal trouble through no fault of their own, to give a couple of examples. Life involves drama on occasion.
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Old Yesterday, 11:18 AM
 
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It's a basic compatibility criterion. Some folks prefer a partner with a lot shared yet overcome negative life experience -- and there's nothing wrong with that. I just prefer folks like myself, who just avoided obstacles, planned well, didn't act evil and later need divine/secular forgiveness, and yes --perhaps-- got a little lucky along the way: boring.

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Old Yesterday, 11:26 AM
 
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[Snip.]It's a basic compatibility criterion. Some folks prefer a partner with a lot shared yet overcome negative life experience -- and there's nothing wrong with that. I just prefer folks like myself, who just avoided obstacles, planned well, didn't act evil and later need diving/secular forgiveness, and yes --perhaps-- got a little lucky along the way: boring.

Oh no, you're definitely not alone. Mod cut. And the men I've been involved with were boring too, it doesn't bother me, except when they don't know how to talk. I get tired of being the entertainment. I've been through some obstacles in my past, but I avoid them now. I feel like a person with no baggage (emotional, physical or financial) has every right to want that in their partner and they are free to ask for it, but saying "No drama" to convey that is too ambiguous. Just say "I have no baggage and want the same in return". Yeah, some people might get upset that you rejected them, but who cares? Screw 'em.

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Old Yesterday, 11:41 AM
 
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Like anything, you ask them to clarify, and then over time see if their actions back up their words.

I wouldn't put too much into it.
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Old Yesterday, 11:42 AM
 
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[Snip.] It's a basic compatibility criterion. Some folks prefer a partner with a lot shared yet overcome negative life experience -- and there's nothing wrong with that. I just prefer folks like myself, who just avoided obstacles, planned well, didn't act evil and later need divine/secular forgiveness, and yes --perhaps-- got a little lucky along the way: boring.
Laid back is a better term, and that is how I would state it on a dating profile to be effective. That best describes me as well.

I have actually seen dating profiles where women say they do not want laid back guys ... and that is totally fine. For the most, part I know what they mean.

And it's probably best that we don't meet (though I got few enough dates, I would meet anyway, lol...)

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Old Yesterday, 11:47 AM
 
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The conversation would be like this:

No drama? What? No broadway shows? Can't cry if my dog dies? No drama, because you're the drama queen? If I pick tacos when you want Italian, is that drama?

A profile it just to give you a general idea if you might get on with someone.
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Old Yesterday, 11:54 AM
 
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No drama? What? No broadway shows? Can't cry if my dog dies? No drama, because you're the drama queen? If I pick tacos when you want Italian, is that drama?
Lol. Good one.
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Old Yesterday, 12:07 PM
 
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How can you know what is coming up in your life, though? What if your partner gets really sick or gets into legal trouble through no fault of their own, to give a couple of examples. Life involves drama on occasion.
That's a good point.

I imagine drama would be those things of either your choosing or the natural result of choices made. But the human condition is inherently random, you're right.
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Old Yesterday, 12:20 PM
 
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That's a good point.

I imagine drama would be those things of either your choosing or the natural result of choices made. But the human condition is inherently random, you're right.
Totally. Just a couple of examples from my own friendship circle:

E.g. a friend of mine's husband got lung cancer and died within a couple of years. In his 40s, healthy lifestyle, biked to work and ate healthy, never smoked etc. That was a real emotional rollercoaster for everyone involved.

Another friend was randomly attacked by a dog when walking down the street, was quite badly injured and got into a legal battle with the dog owner that lasted a long time.

It's good to have a supportive partner or friends by your side when random life drama strikes. That would be my concern with 'no drama'
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Old Yesterday, 12:32 PM
 
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Totally. Just a couple of examples from my own friendship circle:

E.g. a friend of mine's husband got lung cancer and died within a couple of years. In his 40s, healthy lifestyle, biked to work and ate healthy, never smoked etc. That was a real emotional rollercoaster for everyone involved.

Another friend was randomly attacked by a dog when walking down the street, was quite badly injured and got into a legal battle with the dog owner that lasted a long time.

It's good to have a supportive partner or friends by your side when random life drama strikes. That would be my concern with 'no drama'
I dont think they mean that type of drama. They are talking about drama connected to their relationship which deals with previous exes or game playing. No one can control life drama which is something I experience last summer when I was sick and have to live in the hospital for 4 weeks
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