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Old Today, 02:57 PM
 
Location: New to Bay Area
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So at first he basically wrote a fan email (dont even know how he got that email). Said he loves what I do etc. I responded politely. Then he started blowi.g me up....20 or 30 emails per day I just ignored them. After 3 months of that I replied and told him he is stressing me and sorry but a relationship is not in the cards. Then he just contined escalating the harassmemt, calling my parents, threatening to go to their houses, threatening to "expose" me, finding my address etc. I got police involved and a TRO after about 2 or 3 months of that. This all began over 2 years ago.


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If you requested he stop emailing you....20 or 30 emails a day is harassment & you could have reported that long before ignoring it for 3 months. They can find out who is sending them & put an immediate stop to it.....when all the threats are written. I've had to do it a couple of times....because of a vlog I have & other online harassment. No one is annonymous when it comes to harassment........

 
Old Today, 03:13 PM
 
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I knew who was sending them, he was using his real name. I kept thinking he would stop. Even now I keep thinking he will stop, be he hasnt. I dont like to waste authorities time on frivolous stuff so I waited until I knew it was something I couldnt handle on my own.
 
Old Today, 03:17 PM
 
Location: New to Bay Area
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I knew who was sending them, he was using his real name. I kept thinking he would stop. Even now I keep thinking he will stop, be he hasnt. I dont like to waste authorities time on frivolous stuff so I waited until I knew it was something I couldnt handle on my own.
You never know tho....if he was emailing you for 3 months without you answering him....that's soemone who is obsessive & you don't know what it will take for them to snap. IMO it's better to report it right away....even if nothing is done about it immediately, it's on police record...so if & when something happens.....1st place they will turn. I feel safer that way.....cause stuff like that can get out of hand overnight. BUT...you are lucky he was arrested now....
 
Old Today, 03:23 PM
 
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If I knew then what I know I would have reported it right away and never replied to him at all. I had a bad feeling about him but never dreamed it would ever go this far.
 
Old Today, 03:35 PM
 
Location: San Diego
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Do yourself a huge favor in the time window you have. Get a handgun, a ccw and get trained on using it.
 
Old Today, 03:38 PM
 
Location: New to Bay Area
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Do yourself a huge favor in the time window you have. Get a handgun, a ccw and get trained on using it.
ITA...gun, mace, security cameras.....but still report all harassment at the first sign.....
 
Old Today, 03:43 PM
 
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If I knew then what I know I would have reported it right away and never replied to him at all. I had a bad feeling about him but never dreamed it would ever go this far.
Hindsight is 20/20. What matters is things are being done about the stalker right now. Guns, security cameras, mace, tasers, learn how to defend yourself in every way you can.
 
Old Today, 04:02 PM
 
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Hindsight is 20/20. What matters is things are being done about the stalker right now. Guns, security cameras, mace, tasers, learn how to defend yourself in every way you can.
Good idea. I keep very aware of my surroundings at all times, dont go anywhere after dark, etc. I dont carry any protection though, maybe Ill look into it. Idk if jail will make him quit or what will happen now.

I called the prosecutor. He pled not guilty and he is not in custody now. Next hearing he will get a plea bargain offer.
 
Old Today, 04:10 PM
 
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If this is his first offense it will probably be a slap on the wrist. I wouldn't count on him serving any time at this point. Have you seen him since he was arrested? How long ago was that?
 
Old Today, 04:21 PM
 
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If this is his first offense it will probably be a slap on the wrist. I wouldn't count on him serving any time at this point. Have you seen him since he was arrested? How long ago was that?
I dont know exactly when he was arrested. Within the past month? Nobody has updated me.

He is actually a convicted felon (drugs). Has several things on his record.
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