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Old 07-24-2019, 08:29 PM
 
Location: a primitive state
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My husband-to-be started out as a rather charming customer at work. Our place was more casual than a place like Lowe’s so it wasn’t quite so awkward. We knew people in common, which made it less random.

We had several friendly, work-related interactions and he ultimately came in especially to ask me out. I had a crush on him by that time. The rest is history.
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Old 07-25-2019, 10:28 AM
 
Location: (six-cent-dix-sept)
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1. start a project that requires you to go close to her aisles. so you will become less of a stranger to her.
2. start chatting her about the project then jumpoff into other interests.
3. profit.
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Old 07-25-2019, 10:31 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Most likely she will decline, then he will know. But possibly she will accept if she thinks he is attractive and if she is looking for a future interest. What do you think the outcome will be if he never ask at all? What do you think the worst that could happen if he ask is?


I agree it is low percentage for making a date, but she isn't going to slap him, scream or call the cops. Most likely she is already with someone and she will just politely tell him so. But to never ask is to guarantee failure.
HINT: there are other options besides all-or-nothing. Walking up to a stranger and asking them to coffee, vs. never saying anything to them aren't the only options. Most people know this. Most women won't respond favorably to a complete stranger walking up to them out of the blue, and inviting them to coffee. OK, you could argue that a coffee "date" in public is harmless enough. Most women need more info about the person to go on, than just someone's appearance for the minute or two it takes to approach her and give her your number.
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Old 07-25-2019, 10:49 AM
 
Location: San Diego
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All the OP knows is that she is cute.

He doesn't know if she's rude or weird or dumb or snobby. He hasn't even heard her voice, really.

They are total strangers. The most he could do is speak to her, about something benign at the store, then be clever enough to flip the conversation to the personal side to see if she goes along with it.
Or maybe she's like the Glenn Close character in Fatal Attraction.

Good luck OP.
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Old 07-25-2019, 11:59 AM
 
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HINT: there are other options besides all-or-nothing. Walking up to a stranger and asking them to coffee, vs. never saying anything to them aren't the only options. Most people know this. Most women won't respond favorably to a complete stranger walking up to them out of the blue, and inviting them to coffee. OK, you could argue that a coffee "date" in public is harmless enough. Most women need more info about the person to go on, than just someone's appearance for the minute or two it takes to approach her and give her your number.
I am going to go a bit further than this. Wanting to ask someone out that you don't know at all based entirely on the fact that you saw her and found her cute IS creepy. The poster above who mentioned planning a project so that one can show up in her aisle is stalker AF.
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Old 07-25-2019, 12:18 PM
 
Location: Atlanta
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I am going to go a bit further than this. Wanting to ask someone out that you don't know at all based entirely on the fact that you saw her and found her cute IS creepy. The poster above who mentioned planning a project so that one can show up in her aisle is stalker AF.
Wanting to go out with someone because they are cute is creepy? I don't get that. What reasoning would NOT be creepy? The desire to go out with someone has to start some where.. why can't that reason be because they are cute.. ?

That's a really odd statement.
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Old 07-25-2019, 12:30 PM
 
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Wanting to go out with someone because they are cute is creepy? I don't get that. What reasoning would NOT be creepy?
Oy Vay. Really? Knowing them and LIKING WHO THEY ARE. Sense of humor, fun... A little sparky spark.

Quote from my 15yo. All these boys want to go out with me because I am pretty. They don't even know me. They don't know what kind of music I like. They don't know what I do for activities or for fun. What kind of books I read. What makes me laugh. What to they want? Some cute chick to raise their social status? A nice looking girl to hopefully stick their (potty mouth for penis) in? Why would I want to go out with that??

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The desire to go out with someone has to start some where.. why can't that reason be because they are cute.. ?

That's a really odd statement.
I guess it depends what you want. If you want a fashion accessory, then I guess. I hope you are not hitting on a girl who wants to be more than your dress up doll.
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Old 07-25-2019, 12:39 PM
 
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I am going to go a bit further than this. Wanting to ask someone out that you don't know at all based entirely on the fact that you saw her and found her cute IS creepy. The poster above who mentioned planning a project so that one can show up in her aisle is stalker AF.
I respectively disagree with you on the bolded because i think it's extreme. Don't misunderstand me, I'm not saying this ^ guy should follow this ^ woman around the store, planning ways to meet her in the aisle, that IS stalkerish. I agree.

I understood the bolded to mean ANY time ANY guy wants to talk to a woman he doesn't know because he's attracted, it is stalking. IF thats how you meant it, does that include clubs, bars, and college parties too? Does it include college classrooms (alot of ppl who didnt know each other connect there)? Alot (not all but alot) of relationships/marriages would never start under such circumstances.
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Old 07-25-2019, 12:41 PM
 
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I respectively disagree with you on the bolded because i think it's extreme. Don't misunderstand me, I'm not saying this ^ guy should follow this ^ woman around the store, planning ways to meet her in the aisle, that IS stalkerish. I agree.

I understood the bolded to mean ANY time ANY guy wants to talk to a woman he doesn't know because he's attracted, it is stalking. IF thats how you meant it, does that include clubs, bars, and college parties too? Does it include college classrooms (alot of ppl who didnt know each other connect there)? Alot (not all but alot) of relationships/marriages would never start under such extremes.
No - asking out, seeking to ask out on nothing but cute.
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Old 07-25-2019, 12:57 PM
 
Location: (six-cent-dix-sept)
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Oy Vay. Really? Knowing them and LIKING WHO THEY ARE. Sense of humor, fun... A little sparky spark.

...
humans are vain and superficial.
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