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Old Yesterday, 04:18 PM
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Location: Texas
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I only was involved with one clingy man, and that was in college. After I told him in no uncertain terms, that we would never be a couple, he hooked up right away with another woman and married her. Her family supported them, since he did not have a job and never worked. He tried to find me again years later when his wife left him, he literally showed up on my doorstep out of the blue one day. I shut the door in his face.
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Old Yesterday, 05:34 PM
 
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I only was involved with one clingy man, and that was in college. After I told him in no uncertain terms, that we would never be a couple, he hooked up right away with another woman and married her. Her family supported them, since he did not have a job and never worked. He tried to find me again years later when his wife left him, he literally showed up on my doorstep out of the blue one day. I shut the door in his face.
Rejected college dude shows up at your doorstep uninvited /unannounced years later? Smh...That's what 00 buck is for
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Old Yesterday, 05:36 PM
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Rejected college dude shows up at your doorstep uninvited /unannounced years later? Smh...That's what 00 buck is for
15 years later, to be precise.

He was a professional couch surfer so I think that's what he wanted.
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Old Yesterday, 08:08 PM
 
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Here's another question: how quickly can you tell if a guy is probably going to get clingy? Before you're dating him even? Any sort of behavior patterns that point to his propensity for clinginess?
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Old Yesterday, 08:21 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Here's another question: how quickly can you tell if a guy is probably going to get clingy? Before you're dating him even? Any sort of behavior patterns that point to his propensity for clinginess?
You can't. I made this point earlier. There's no crystal ball, no tea leaves or coffee grounds to read. It's a chancy thing.
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Old Today, 07:42 AM
 
Location: North Dakota
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Iím very curious, but do women ever have a desire to strictly date or sleep with a guy, but avoid doing it because something about him makes it seem as though he would get too attached, be too clingy or want it to be more than what it is (such as wanting a relationship)?

I have a suspicion this may be the case, but I do not know if women ever see guys as attractive in just a casual sense but actually avoid them because they think those guys would want more than a casual relationship
Yes.
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Old Today, 08:33 AM
 
Location: a primitive state
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If a guy is the right guy, it matters less.

I often wonder if people who ask this kind of question rush in before they know if they are a good match.
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Old Today, 08:40 AM
 
Location: New to Bay Area
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I could see that happening. I think both men and women can be turned off by clinginess.
Ita....clinginess is a turn off for both. But a genuine interest over time is a turn on. It's usually men who stay casual but it can happen the other way around. Why date, tho...if you don't want a relationship? Be honest about it & let it be known at the start you aren't looking for anything but "friendship".....
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Old Today, 08:52 AM
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Personally, I would not be concerned with that so much as incapable, insecure... Cannot help thinking of the Julia Robert's quote:
"Women, you are not rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix him, change him, parent him. You want a partner, not a project."
That can be said to and about both genders.

The stereotypes suggest that men are more detached, whereas women easily get attached to the right man. Again, it can go both ways, especially in modern times when there isn't as much overt pressure to conform.
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Old Today, 09:00 AM
 
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is easily attached men code word for needy/clingy?
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