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I’m very curious, but do women ever have a desire to strictly date or sleep with a guy, but avoid doing it because something about him makes it seem as though he would get too attached, be too clingy or want it to be more than what it is (such as wanting a relationship)?
I have a suspicion this may be the case, but I do not know if women ever see guys as attractive in just a casual sense but actually avoid them because they think those guys would want more than a casual relationship
I’m very curious, but do women ever have a desire to strictly date or sleep with a guy, but avoid doing it because something about him makes it seem as though he would get too attached, be too clingy or want it to be more than what it is (such as wanting a relationship)?
I have a suspicion this may be the case, but I do not know if women ever see guys as attractive in just a casual sense but actually avoid them because they think those guys would want more than a casual relationship
I could see that happening. I think both men and women can be turned off by clinginess.
I could see that happening. I think both men and women can be turned off by clinginess.
Agree.
I stopped dating a guy because he was too needy for me. Great guy but we just didn't match in that area and I was feeling smothered. He got married a few years later so it obviously wasn't an issue for someone else.
I'm sure there are men that feel the same way about women.
OP, people get attached. Humans get attached. THere's no way to somehow screen an attractive stranger or semi-acquaintance for proneness toward attachment. It's a chance anyone takes, when they're approaching someone without a serious LTR in mind. If you're concerned about people becoming attached, your only choice, really, is to avoid casual hookups. Even people who say they're up for a casual thing may become attached. Sex can be a powerful bonding agent, that's just the way it is. Make your decisions with that in mind. Who knows? Next time, you might be the one becoming attached, unlikely though you may think that is. You never know.
I’m very curious, but do women ever have a desire to strictly date or sleep with a guy, but avoid doing it because something about him makes it seem as though he would get too attached, be too clingy or want it to be more than what it is (such as wanting a relationship)?
I have a suspicion this may be the case, but I do not know if women ever see guys as attractive in just a casual sense but actually avoid them because they think those guys would want more than a casual relationship
Yes women often run the other direction when it seems like a man is going to be too attached too soon. It seems as if you’re going to be smothered by this person, that the person doesn’t have a life and they want to make you their life. I think both men and women run from this not just women. It’s generally on attractive, because it makes it seem the person wants to grab you like a life jacket. Women want to share their lives with a man who already has one of his own.
I stopped dating a guy because he was too needy for me. Great guy but we just didn't match in that area and I was feeling smothered. He got married a few years later so it obviously wasn't an issue for someone else.
I'm sure there are men that feel the same way about women.
Great points. Definitely goes both ways.
And the same when it comes to non romantic relationships. Relationships are meant to be built gradually, be it dating, plutonic friends, work buddies, neighbors, etc.
People need their space. And the neediness just shows low value like they don't have a life of their own to tend to. Probably so if they're always scaring away potential relationships.
I’m very curious, but do women ever have a desire to strictly date or sleep with a guy, but avoid doing it because something about him makes it seem as though he would get too attached, be too clingy or want it to be more than what it is (such as wanting a relationship)?
I have a suspicion this may be the case, but I do not know if women ever see guys as attractive in just a casual sense but actually avoid them because they think those guys would want more than a casual relationship
Personally, I would not be concerned with that so much as incapable, insecure... Cannot help thinking of the Julia Robert's quote:
"Women, you are not rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix him, change him, parent him. You want a partner, not a project."
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