U.S. CitiesCity-Data Forum Index
Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Relationships
 [Register]
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
View detailed profile (Advanced) or search
site with Google Custom Search

Search Forums  (Advanced)
Reply Start New Thread
 
Old Yesterday, 07:50 AM
 
68 posts, read 37,785 times
Reputation: 86

Advertisements

Iím very curious, but do women ever have a desire to strictly date or sleep with a guy, but avoid doing it because something about him makes it seem as though he would get too attached, be too clingy or want it to be more than what it is (such as wanting a relationship)?

I have a suspicion this may be the case, but I do not know if women ever see guys as attractive in just a casual sense but actually avoid them because they think those guys would want more than a casual relationship
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message

 
Old Yesterday, 07:53 AM
 
237 posts, read 46,149 times
Reputation: 482
Not all that often, I would say. I'm sure it happens sometimes.

If you reverse the genders, I think that's much more common. Woman wants relationship, man wants to keep it casual.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old Yesterday, 09:00 AM
 
8,122 posts, read 6,040,610 times
Reputation: 5768
Quote:
Originally Posted by Ray Nathan View Post
Iím very curious, but do women ever have a desire to strictly date or sleep with a guy, but avoid doing it because something about him makes it seem as though he would get too attached, be too clingy or want it to be more than what it is (such as wanting a relationship)?

I have a suspicion this may be the case, but I do not know if women ever see guys as attractive in just a casual sense but actually avoid them because they think those guys would want more than a casual relationship
I could see that happening. I think both men and women can be turned off by clinginess.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old Yesterday, 09:56 AM
 
4,098 posts, read 2,652,661 times
Reputation: 8876
Quote:
Originally Posted by TJenkins602 View Post
I could see that happening. I think both men and women can be turned off by clinginess.
Agree.

I stopped dating a guy because he was too needy for me. Great guy but we just didn't match in that area and I was feeling smothered. He got married a few years later so it obviously wasn't an issue for someone else.

I'm sure there are men that feel the same way about women.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old Yesterday, 10:27 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
79,045 posts, read 70,909,315 times
Reputation: 77088
OP, people get attached. Humans get attached. THere's no way to somehow screen an attractive stranger or semi-acquaintance for proneness toward attachment. It's a chance anyone takes, when they're approaching someone without a serious LTR in mind. If you're concerned about people becoming attached, your only choice, really, is to avoid casual hookups. Even people who say they're up for a casual thing may become attached. Sex can be a powerful bonding agent, that's just the way it is. Make your decisions with that in mind. Who knows? Next time, you might be the one becoming attached, unlikely though you may think that is. You never know.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old Yesterday, 10:51 AM
 
20,711 posts, read 16,723,368 times
Reputation: 38914
Quote:
Originally Posted by Ray Nathan View Post
Iím very curious, but do women ever have a desire to strictly date or sleep with a guy, but avoid doing it because something about him makes it seem as though he would get too attached, be too clingy or want it to be more than what it is (such as wanting a relationship)?

I have a suspicion this may be the case, but I do not know if women ever see guys as attractive in just a casual sense but actually avoid them because they think those guys would want more than a casual relationship
Yes women often run the other direction when it seems like a man is going to be too attached too soon. It seems as if youíre going to be smothered by this person, that the person doesnít have a life and they want to make you their life. I think both men and women run from this not just women. Itís generally on attractive, because it makes it seem the person wants to grab you like a life jacket. Women want to share their lives with a man who already has one of his own.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old Yesterday, 10:55 AM
 
Location: CasaMo
15,496 posts, read 7,525,159 times
Reputation: 16866
Quote:
Originally Posted by Rowan123 View Post
Agree.

I stopped dating a guy because he was too needy for me. Great guy but we just didn't match in that area and I was feeling smothered. He got married a few years later so it obviously wasn't an issue for someone else.

I'm sure there are men that feel the same way about women.
Great points. Definitely goes both ways.



And the same when it comes to non romantic relationships. Relationships are meant to be built gradually, be it dating, plutonic friends, work buddies, neighbors, etc.

People need their space. And the neediness just shows low value like they don't have a life of their own to tend to. Probably so if they're always scaring away potential relationships.

Eta:. Looks like ocnjgirl beat me to it!
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old Yesterday, 12:35 PM
 
12,437 posts, read 9,955,087 times
Reputation: 16064
Quote:
Originally Posted by Ray Nathan View Post
Iím very curious, but do women ever have a desire to strictly date or sleep with a guy, but avoid doing it because something about him makes it seem as though he would get too attached, be too clingy or want it to be more than what it is (such as wanting a relationship)?

I have a suspicion this may be the case, but I do not know if women ever see guys as attractive in just a casual sense but actually avoid them because they think those guys would want more than a casual relationship
Hells yes.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old Yesterday, 02:25 PM
Status: "Disagreeing is not the same thing as trolling." (set 24 days ago)
 
Location: Texas
9,821 posts, read 3,736,481 times
Reputation: 19986
I would see a clingy man as being effeminate.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old Yesterday, 02:31 PM
 
12,437 posts, read 9,955,087 times
Reputation: 16064
Quote:
Originally Posted by PriscillaVanilla View Post
I would see a clingy man as being effeminate.
Personally, I would not be concerned with that so much as incapable, insecure... Cannot help thinking of the Julia Robert's quote:
"Women, you are not rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix him, change him, parent him. You want a partner, not a project."
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.

Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.


Reply

Quick Reply
Message:


Over $104,000 in prizes was already given out to active posters on our forum and additional giveaways are planned!

Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Relationships
Follow City-Data.com founder on our Forum or

All times are GMT -6.

© 2005-2019, Advameg, Inc. · Please obey Forum Rules · Terms of Use and Privacy Policy · Bug Bounty

City-Data.com - Archive 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35 - Top