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Old 07-25-2019, 07:14 PM
 
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I was having insomnia problems and the insomnia I noticed was actually much worse if I have sex in the evnening, so I stopped doing it and it's been better since. I asked about that in another thread, here:

Is it normal for sex to cause insomnia?

It's related to this current issue, because my gf asked me how often I masturbate just in casual conversation and I said everyday usually, once.

She said when, and I said in the morning when I get up before I go to work, cause if I do it after work, it causes me to have insomnia then late in the day.

So she said "so you find time to masturbate, but not have sex with me", to which I replied well the only time we have to do is in the evenings cause of your work schedules, and I don't want to be up all night and tired for work the next day if I do, especially since I am still trying to catch up on sleep.

So she started crying and is now distant from me. But just because I masturbate every morning, has nothing to do with me not wanting her. Did she overreact, or was I being insensitive?

 
Old 07-25-2019, 07:19 PM
 
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Whether you rub your arm or another part of your body is none of her business.

I'd never have that conversation again so your relationship will remain stable
 
Old 07-25-2019, 07:28 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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Why would anyone guy fap when they have a willing gf.
 
Old 07-25-2019, 07:30 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Originally Posted by ironpony View Post
I was having insomnia problems and the insomnia I noticed was actually much worse if I have sex in the evnening, so I stopped doing it and it's been better since. I asked about that in another thread, here:

Is it normal for sex to cause insomnia?

It's related to this current issue, because my gf asked me how often I masturbate just in casual conversation and I said everyday usually, once.

She said when, and I said in the morning when I get up before I go to work, cause if I do it after work, it causes me to have insomnia then late in the day.

So she said "so you find time to masturbate, but not have sex with me", to which I replied well the only time we have to do is in the evenings cause of your work schedules, and I don't want to be up all night and tired for work the next day if I do, especially since I am still trying to catch up on sleep.

So she started crying and is now distant from me. But just because I masturbate every morning, has nothing to do with me not wanting her. Did she overreact, or was I being insensitive?
Well, if you think about it, you're choosing NOT to have sex or masturbate at night because of the insomnia. "How often" is not the problem.

Since that's the ONLY time she is available to have sex, you're choosing to masturbate instead of have sex with her. YOU get to masturbate. What does she get??

How is this not obvious to you??
 
Old 07-25-2019, 07:34 PM
 
Location: Arlington, VA and Washington, DC
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First, keep your masturbation habits to you, yourself, and yo damn self.
 
Old 07-25-2019, 07:34 PM
 
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You can still fap man, but you're obviously doing it way too much. As you said yourself, it's interfering with your sex life with her. Everyday? Too much expediture!
 
Old 07-25-2019, 07:36 PM
 
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Oh okay, but how is it interfering with my sex life specifically though?
 
Old 07-25-2019, 07:40 PM
 
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First, keep your masturbation habits to you, yourself, and yo damn self.
I hear you man, but if she wants to get it on like now and he already popped 30 mins before.... she's gonna know or atleast wonder. She's gonna be like "don't you still find me atttactive?" "Why aren't you all over me?"...etc. Well yeah he does, but he's got nothing left to "give".
 
Old 07-25-2019, 07:43 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Oh okay, but how is it interfering with my sex life specifically though?


Because you AREN'T HAVING SEX ANYMORE. You're only masturbating.

You said you stopped having sex at night because it kept you awake. Nighttime is the only time she can have sex with you.


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Originally Posted by ironpony View Post
I was having insomnia problems and the insomnia I noticed was actually much worse if I have sex in the evnening, so I stopped doing it and it's been better since. I asked about that in another thread, here:


She said when, and I said in the morning when I get up before I go to work, cause if I do it after work, it causes me to have insomnia then late in the day.

So she said "so you find time to masturbate, but not have sex with me", to which I replied well the only time we have to do is in the evenings cause of your work schedules, and I don't want to be up all night and tired for work the next day if I do, especially since I am still trying to catch up on sleep.
You're being dense.
 
Old 07-25-2019, 07:45 PM
 
Location: Santa Monica, Ca
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Whether you rub your arm or another part of your body is none of her business.

I'd never have that conversation again so your relationship will remain stable
How is the relationship going to remain stable if his girlfriend is complaining about the lack of sex?
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