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Old 08-02-2019, 04:09 PM
 
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And Heaven forbid we do, and the man still insists and won't let up. It happens a lot.

We all have our own experiences, but those individual experiences don't make them universal facts.
Well no, lets do the universal all-women all-men thing, since several warnings aren't enough.

Here's me: All men suggest a second date when the first didn't go so well and I wasn't really feeling any attraction. I tried to be polite and say I had a good time, I may even text when I get home and say thanks. All men ask when we can do it again, and if I politely tell them I didn't feel that kind of a connection, and it probably wouldn't work out, they pounce on "probably" and advise me it would be best to give it another shot. All men have no way of deciphering whether a woman was attracted to them or not. All men can't take no for an answer even if the conversation ends with a blunt:"no." All men call back later when they've been drinking even when I'm at work and announce: "I'M THE CAPTAIN OF THIS SHIP AND IF I LIKE COUNTRY MUSIC WE WILL LISTEN TO IT EVERY TIME."

See? That's why all women ghost. Quit doing that.

Before the date ghosting?
O.K.-- All men ask for more pictures. We say, there are pictures on our profile. All men ask for more revealing pictures. We say maybe after we meet them. Maybe. All men send dicpics if we're still having the conversation. All women ghost after that.
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Old 08-02-2019, 04:55 PM
 
Location: Moreno Valley, Ca
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Well no, lets do the universal all-women all-men thing, since several warnings aren't enough.

Here's me: All men suggest a second date when the first didn't go so well and I wasn't really feeling any attraction. I tried to be polite and say I had a good time, I may even text when I get home and say thanks. All men ask when we can do it again, and if I politely tell them I didn't feel that kind of a connection, and it probably wouldn't work out, they pounce on "probably" and advise me it would be best to give it another shot. All men have no way of deciphering whether a woman was attracted to them or not. All men can't take no for an answer even if the conversation ends with a blunt:"no." All men call back later when they've been drinking even when I'm at work and announce: "I'M THE CAPTAIN OF THIS SHIP AND IF I LIKE COUNTRY MUSIC WE WILL LISTEN TO IT EVERY TIME."

See? That's why all women ghost. Quit doing that.

Before the date ghosting?
O.K.-- All men ask for more pictures. We say, there are pictures on our profile. All men ask for more revealing pictures. We say maybe after we meet them. Maybe. All men send dicpics if we're still having the conversation. All women ghost after that.
And since most of your experiences match quite a few of MY experiences, then all of them MUST be FACT.

THE UNIVERSAL TRUTH. PERIOD.
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Old 08-02-2019, 05:21 PM
 
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I think it's very convenient for women to deny that women ghost more, play hard to get, or demand to be chased. All of that is deeply ingrained in the dating culture. There is no reason for women to do any of this. I also think it is convenient for some of you on this thread to set up a man vs woman narrative when that was not what I was doing. The OP is a woman and asked why a man was doing this. I tried offering up a possible explanation. They set the stage for a male/female dynamic.



Heaven forbid you take 30 seconds of your time to tell the guy that you aren't feeling it.
Having been on the other side of this many, many times, where the guy starts with wanting explanations for "why" down to being full on verbally accosted, I can honestly say, you are completely full of ****.
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Old 08-02-2019, 09:14 PM
 
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If guys on dating sites seem desperate it's because they are desperate.
Men that have a shred of self-respect don't beg for dates on the internet.
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Old 08-03-2019, 03:20 AM
 
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If guys on dating sites seem desperate it's because they are desperate.
Men that have a shred of self-respect don't beg for dates on the internet.
Too late. I lost my self respect, when I went to KFC ordered a small family meal, and sat down right there in restaurant and ate it all myself. A self-respecting glut would have pigged out in car or took it home.
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Old 08-03-2019, 04:01 AM
 
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If guys on dating sites seem desperate it's because they are desperate.
Men that have a shred of self-respect don't beg for dates on the internet.
No they do not beg. But they do use online dating. I am talking to a super nice guy right now who mentioned that I should take my time and he does not have any expectations about how quickly I respond or anything because he knows what a nightmare on line dating can be for women. We are talking at my speed. Makes me feel very comfortable and quite happy.
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Old 08-03-2019, 05:04 AM
 
Location: Evanston & Lake Forest, Illinois
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See, if you've said goodbye or offered an explanation and they keep going, it's no longer ghosting. That's ridiculous. I've never blown up on anyone, but I'm still ghosted after dishing out $160. That's not fair. Receiving annoying messages is not the same as being assaulted.
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Old 08-03-2019, 05:12 AM
 
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See, if you've said goodbye or offered an explanation and they keep going, it's no longer ghosting. That's ridiculous. I've never blown up on anyone, but I'm still ghosted after dishing out $160. That's not fair. Receiving annoying messages is not the same as being assaulted.
Don't dish out $160. I am kind of surprised that this is still a thing. I have never encountered a date that 1) even insisted on paying 2) failed to suggest dates that were economically feasible for them.
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Old 08-03-2019, 05:42 AM
 
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Don't dish out $160. I am kind of surprised that this is still a thing. I have never encountered a date that 1) even insisted on paying 2) failed to suggest dates that were economically feasible for them.
I'm trying to figure in what world does someone spend $160 on a meal? I never have. At the very most it was around 50-ish dollars. Unless you're dining at the same restaurants Hollywood celebs dine, then that's near impossible.
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Old 08-03-2019, 06:48 AM
 
Location: SC
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Been there done that. Burned the T-shirt. OLD.

I met this latest husband on OLD. It has turned out to be a bad marriage. He is Aspergers, but he was able to mask it well.

I feel OLD has changed the whole culture of dating. ANY dating. Now potential dates are also viewed through those OLD rose colored glasses.

I deleted my dating profile in 2008. I had only kept it up to keep in touch with the friends I met there.
When this marriage is finally finished in divorce, I will no longer date. I had waited 9 years for this one. No more.
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