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Old Yesterday, 08:01 PM
Status: "Life is amazing." (set 3 days ago)
 
Location: Central Florida
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OP please stop. When I was 20 my boyfriend was 37. I didnt understand the creepiness at the time but when I look back I realize how he took advantage of me. I should have been dating guys my own age. He was the aggressive pursuer in it and I just didnt know how to set boundaries then.

Leave her alone, its very inappropriate. And even if she seems to accept the relationship now in a few years she will look back with regret. Its creepy and weird.
I agree. I also dated older men in my 16-21 years, and seriously donít understand why my parents didnít set me straight back then. As a parent of a 20 something college student, my advice to my daughter is to ignore advances from older men. Its just creepy.
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Old Yesterday, 09:00 PM
 
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was he also from socal ?
Lol. No he wasn't.
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Old Yesterday, 09:15 PM
 
Location: Kansas City North
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I agree. I also dated older men in my 16-21 years, and seriously donít understand why my parents didnít set me straight back then. As a parent of a 20 something college student, my advice to my daughter is to ignore advances from older men. Its just creepy.
I thought I was pushing it pretty hard when as a college freshman, I dated a 5th year senior.
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Old Today, 11:34 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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Yeah, let it go.

Don't keep reaching out to her as it will start to get creepy. You said you what you had to say and leave it at that.

The age gap between you two is the worst possible one. Age gaps can work for some but not this combination of ages. Too much life experience differences.
And the fact that the OP's 14-year-old daughter thinks OP shouldn't be dating his 18-year-old classmate should speak volumes. The interests of his own child should come before whatever this dude's little head is telling him.
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Old Today, 01:48 PM
 
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And the fact that the OP's 14-year-old daughter thinks OP shouldn't be dating his 18-year-old classmate should speak volumes. The interests of his own child should come before whatever this dude's little head is telling him.
I don’t think it’s even about sex. I have a feeling OP is one of those people who want someone to rescue. He wants just keep her like a little doll and protect her. At the expense of her living her own life and finding her true self of course.
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Old Today, 02:09 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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And the fact that the OP's 14-year-old daughter thinks OP shouldn't be dating his 18-year-old classmate should speak volumes. The interests of his own child should come before whatever this dude's little head is telling him.
Yeah, that's just gross actually, I didn't read the entire thread, just answered the OP on face value.

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I donít think itís even about sex. I have a feeling OP is one of those people who want someone to rescue. He wants just keep her like a little doll and protect her. At the expense of her living her own life and finding her true self of course.
Yeah, you're probably right. I can't imagine a guy at that age, I'm trying to remember 35 and from what I can pull out of the cobwebs I just couldn't imagine entertaining the thought of being with a girl still possibly in High School. Throw in the fact that he has a daughter 4 years younger than her and it amps that creepy factor up about a 1000%.

They are not working on equal planes, even if you say she's an "old" 18, it's a situation with very little parity in terms of the larger understanding of life, and how things work, experience, etc etc.

I said that originally, worst possible age combo.
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