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Old Yesterday, 10:57 AM
 
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Sometimes a good-bye sexual encounter can be real closure, if it doesn't bring up the desire for a full relationship.
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Old Yesterday, 11:00 AM
 
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You have to figure out why you do or don't want to be his friend. I don't have any exs whom I want to be friends. I do have family and friends who are friends with their exs. Just not for me.
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Old Yesterday, 12:19 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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Sure, IF you really want to do it & neither of you is in a relationship currently, I don't see any harm in it by the way you describe the situation. Just 2 pals who want to meet up. You two broke up on a positive, mutual note, so I guess if you really want to. If you don't, then don't...no big deal.
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Old Yesterday, 01:26 PM
 
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Thanks for the responses; when I reflect on it, I don't really have a desire to be his friend so it's more about trying to be nice because he's brought it up a few times. I do have a small curiosity what he's been up to and there's a small part of me that kind of misses him, but I ultimately want to find a guy who wants a relationship with me. I am not interested in benefits with him, especially since he's sleeping with other women now too.
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Old Yesterday, 01:50 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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^ Good, don't waste your time! There's a whole world out there of NEW people to meet!
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Old Yesterday, 01:55 PM
 
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If you two didn't see eye-to-eye on a lot of stuff and broke up because of a lack of compatibility, what would be the basis for a friendship? Or the desire for it?
compatibility as a couple is different from compatibility as just friends.

On the other hand, I can't see being "friends" with any of my ex-girlfriends but that would be for different reasons, mostly stuff guys like vs stuff chicks like.
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Old Yesterday, 02:03 PM
 
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compatibility as a couple is different from compatibility as just friends.

On the other hand, I can't see being "friends" with any of my ex-girlfriends but that would be for different reasons, mostly stuff guys like vs stuff chicks like.
I agree with this; friendship compatibility has a lower threshold for me in terms of how much we need to agree on, etc.
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Old Yesterday, 04:05 PM
 
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compatibility as a couple is different from compatibility as just friends.
I know, that's the reason i highlighted that specific quote from her.
She said "they didnt see eye-to-eye on alot of stuff". I took that to mean, in context, she had little in common with him. It's harder to be friends or bf/gf if you don't see eye to eye on most things.
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Old Yesterday, 04:12 PM
 
Location: Middle America
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Eh.

Since you genuinely have no desire to be friends, I'd skip it. He'll be be leaving very soon, anyway (He's pushing the upper age limit for most branches of the military, and two of them, he's already too old for).
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Old Yesterday, 04:23 PM
 
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(He's pushing the upper age limit for most branches of the military, and two of them, he's already too old for).
Enlisting as an older service member is a negative? The man is 33 and wants to serve. If he can he should. Maybe ppl shouldn't go back to college, have a career change, or have kids at "the upper age limit" either.

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