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We’re at a ballgame for his bday and when I get there he tells me he sat me next to his friend because we’re both single and thinks we’d be a good match.
I’m not a fan of being put on the spot like that but I’m like whatever. Im getting a rare opportunity for myself so let me see if I can take advantage of it.
I try to strike up a conversation with her asking her questions trying to open up a dialogue she gives one word answers to everything. She literally wants no part of the conversation. I try one more time later on same thing gives me nothing and turns around after answering like leave me alone.
It wasn’t like I was blatantly flirting with her I was simply trying to strike up a convo like a normal human being and nothing. It wasn’t like she was some beauty queen either she was halfway decent looking. Not somebody I’d notice when I’m out but still I was willing to see if there was anything there.
I guess if you’re unattractive some people won’t even want to have a convo with you? Lol.
This is why I don’t even try with woman at all because the few times I do i get treated like ****.
She might have felt "put on the spot" too and I wouldn't make much of the one word answers if she felt awkward. Also, chances there will be attraction meeting a total stranger is very low.
Now if you go to ballgames every weekend and he brings a different single lady each game, then you might meet someone you like a lot.
If I was that chick, I'd be a lot nicer even if I found the dude unattractive or whatever. I like conversive, interesting, glib, happy, confident, forward, honest, intelligent people with a sense of humor.
Of course, we don't know what was on her mind....maybe something bad just happened to her like she lost her job - can't fault her for that - fecal material happens.
We’re at a ballgame for his bday and when I get there he tells me he sat me next to his friend because we’re both single and thinks we’d be a good match.
I’m not a fan of being put on the spot like that but I’m like whatever. Im getting a rare opportunity for myself so let me see if I can take advantage of it.
I try to strike up a conversation with her asking her questions trying to open up a dialogue she gives one word answers to everything. She literally wants no part of the conversation. I try one more time later on same thing gives me nothing and turns around after answering like leave me alone.
It wasn’t like I was blatantly flirting with her I was simply trying to strike up a convo like a normal human being and nothing. It wasn’t like she was some beauty queen either she was halfway decent looking. Not somebody I’d notice when I’m out but still I was willing to see if there was anything there.
I guess if you’re unattractive some people won’t even want to have a convo with you? Lol.
This is why I don’t even try with woman at all because the few times I do i get treated like ****.
You're reading a lot into this. She may be one of those (like some of our members here), who hates set-ups, and resented her friend for doing that. You did the polite thing, in trying to make the best of the situation, while not overdoing it in view of her body language.
We’re at a ballgame for his bday and when I get there he tells me he sat me next to his friend because we’re both single and thinks we’d be a good match.
I’m not a fan of being put on the spot like that but I’m like whatever. Im getting a rare opportunity for myself so let me see if I can take advantage of it.
I try to strike up a conversation with her asking her questions trying to open up a dialogue she gives one word answers to everything. She literally wants no part of the conversation. I try one more time later on same thing gives me nothing and turns around after answering like leave me alone.
It wasn’t like I was blatantly flirting with her I was simply trying to strike up a convo like a normal human being and nothing. It wasn’t like she was some beauty queen either she was halfway decent looking. Not somebody I’d notice when I’m out but still I was willing to see if there was anything there.
I guess if you’re unattractive some people won’t even want to have a convo with you? Lol.
This is why I don’t even try with woman at all because the few times I do i get treated like ****.
This happened to me pretty often too, though typically it was more at house parties and birthday parties and stuff. Sometimes, I'd get a couple of minutes of conversation in and they'd be already looking for a way out.
The bottom line is this...
Let's say tomorrow you wake up and you're 6'1" and really good looking. And you meet this woman again. And she opens up like a 7-11. Do you want to be with someone like that?
And lets say that it might not be your looks. Do you want to be with someone who is rude and curt to a stranger for any reason? I don't buy the ... it's in the moment thing. So, that woman the next you see her is going to be ready to have a 20 minute conversation with you? Doubtful...
I mean, granted, lots of guys would say yes, and lots of women do act that way, but it's a real, live question. Because those are the things you SHOULD be concerning yourself with. Those are the important compatibility points.
I know it's hard for you to do that because you cannot even get A woman, but it's very smart to start looking at things like that. It will serve you well in the long run. I wish I could have seen things back then that way.
Anyway ... if your answer happens to be yes, start working on your 'game'...
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She KNEW she was being setup and wasn't happy about it. Period
Unfortunate the OP had to bear the cross of her feelings but the woman had every right to be upset about being placed on the spot. If I was the OP, I’d rip, tear, and staple the friend a new one for placing me into that situation.
She was probably set up without her permission or against her wishes. I think it's weird you mentioned how she wasn't that attractive, as if that was a reason for her poor attitude.
She was probably set up without her permission or against her wishes. I think it's weird you mentioned how she wasn't that attractive, as if that was a reason for her poor attitude.
Exactly... She probably didn't appreciate being blind sided like that... as you weren't. There are many reasons why should could have been so standoffish.. many of which probably had nothing to do with you.. so forget about it and move on..
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