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Old Yesterday, 09:55 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
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OP, why do you feel like a squirrel? What's your profession, and what's her profession? If this is a situation, where you're a construction worker, and she's the National Security Advisor, it might not be a match, just saying. You gaining more confidence wouldn't make a difference there.

More info needed.
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Old Yesterday, 10:00 AM
 
Location: Prague
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Yah. And a life pro tip. If you try to change to get the girl, you will fail.
as a matter of fact, most of them is married or in relationship, I am not trying to get anybody. But I sure want to impress them, yeah, why not?

And speaking of failing, in last year since I started to meet them, I doubled my salary (currently I am nearly at 3 times of national average), got nearly dream job, worked my bodyshape to be my lifetime top - got ripped, athletic and tanned, peak physical performance, my confidence and general life happiness is rising by every month...

could it be that you are just failing as a life-pro? Maybe?
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Old Yesterday, 10:05 AM
 
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as a matter of fact, most of them is married or in relationship, I am not trying to get anybody. But I sure want to impress them, yeah, why not?
A better question would be why? Why would you want to "impress" them?

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And speaking of failing, in last year since I started to meet them, I doubled my salary (currently I am nearly at 3 times of national average), got nearly dream job, worked my bodyshape to be my lifetime top - got ripped, athletic and tanned, peak physical performance, my confidence and general life happiness is rising by every month...

could it be that you are just failing as a life-pro? Maybe?
I am glad for you! Your approach is weird as hell. But if it works for you. Gotta wonder though. Do you always have to play weird mind games on yourself for motivation?
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Old Yesterday, 10:21 AM
 
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Hello,

let there be little brainstorm:

Imagine situation you are a grown adult person and you meet somebody who is impressive to you...

...That person is giving you inspiration, motivation, some strengths sense that life is suddenly much more fun and worthy of living...

But suddenly you feel your own weaknesses, your imperfections and you start to be concerned about them... Because that person is simply so strong, stronger than you. More... majestic.

You wanna change it. Right now you ate shaking squirrel and you wanna turn into sturdy oak.

If you get my drift...

OK, let us have some fun. Let's see what the reactions gonna be

(and yeah, this is a real life problem for me. No fantasy )
If we're talking about serious dating, I think it's a better idea to date someone who matches you.

For example I know a couple where one person (the woman actually) makes a ton of $ and the other makes none, but more importantly, there is no equality in their ambition and work ethic.

Like if a guy is a world class jazz saxophonist who makes 65K a year (a reality) married to a anesthesiologist making 300K? Not a big problem. Guy is successful, maybe even HARDER working, and has his own $. And a lot of people who make a lot of $ don't actually care that much about $, but work ethic is different.

In terms of intelligence, why would you want somebody who is smarter than you? It wouldn't work out well.

If you like to sit on the couch on Saturdays, then you should date someone who does that.
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Old Yesterday, 10:30 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
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as a matter of fact, most of them is married or in relationship, I am not trying to get anybody. But I sure want to impress them, yeah, why not?

And speaking of failing, in last year since I started to meet them, I doubled my salary (currently I am nearly at 3 times of national average), got nearly dream job, worked my bodyshape to be my lifetime top - got ripped, athletic and tanned, peak physical performance, my confidence and general life happiness is rising by every month...

could it be that you are just failing as a life-pro? Maybe?
lol

OP, if you have all that going for you, what's the problem?

Congratulations, btw.
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Old Yesterday, 10:32 AM
 
Location: CasaMo
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Majestic huh? Lol.

Insecure guys need to learn to stop putting women on a pedestal.
For sure.

Peter EU, you're self improvement accomplishments are awesome. Do it for you, first and foremost!
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Old Yesterday, 11:08 AM
 
Location: Aberdeen
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If she is truly that "majestic" then someone with a self confidence problem will have little appeal to her outside of her professional relationship. Stop looking outward and look inward. Take pride in who you are and confidence in where you are headed. Stop TRYING to be the "oak" and just be your best self. Either she will notice and show an interest or she won't. Either case is good for you.
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Old Yesterday, 11:16 AM
 
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eeexactly. My words!

problem is... they are so many years of work ahead of you...

You are very right, this is the right approach. But you also need some sort of mind game... because regardless of how strong and satisfied about yourself you feel, 30 minutes around these people and they overwhelm you...

yeah, that's the reality

I saw nearly every man around them(her) to be the same... Haha!
Truth is, it doesn't matter. You cant actually trick someone into believing you are something other than yourself. Mind games will only get you so far.

I would say it is important thing to be a direct person about who you are and what you want and not be afraid of failure. One's true personality is next to impossible to change. You can change your behavior in some things, but you cannot change your inner self or your genetics so as to impress these "cool" women.

Therein lies the wisdom of knowing that difference.
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Old Yesterday, 11:37 AM
 
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Hello,

let there be little brainstorm:

Imagine situation you are a grown adult person and you meet somebody who is impressive to you...

...That person is giving you inspiration, motivation, some strengths sense that life is suddenly much more fun and worthy of living...

But suddenly you feel your own weaknesses, your imperfections and you start to be concerned about them... Because that person is simply so strong, stronger than you. More... majestic.

You wanna change it. Right now you ate shaking squirrel and you wanna turn into sturdy oak.

If you get my drift...

OK, let us have some fun. Let's see what the reactions gonna be

(and yeah, this is a real life problem for me. No fantasy )
I've been there. To be honest, I haven't managed to overcome this. I can only say that I can relate.

Also, you are who you are. You can only be the best version of you. If it is not a match for her, then it is not a match.
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Old Yesterday, 11:38 AM
 
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good idea. If you want to remain that squirrel your entire life.
Hey, some squirrels can fly. Just sayin'.

Be the flying squirrel.
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