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Old Today, 07:30 AM
 
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I know the phrase 'putting in the work' is not too helpful but I did add 'to get what you want'. Once desires can be identified clearly, acquiring them can be gradual, as you would say "growing." The only thing I would advise against is identifying a specific person as a want, which I suspect may be happening, for now. Instead, I would identify people who recognize that I am growing and see if they want to take the journey with me so that I can build relationship skills.
Definitely good advice.
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Old Today, 07:30 AM
 
Location: Prague
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Are there people who are more accomplished than I am?
Oh, yes.
Do I allow that to intimidate me or make me question my own worth?
No.

You can admire someone and be impressed without making it about yourself. Start there.

Btw, anyone whose goal is to walk around impressing other people has very, very far to go in the confidence department.
Impress yourself. Awe yourself. Inspire yourself. That is the time to be about yourself.

generally, agree, you are very right.

I am not though not sure why people so much stick on "impressive" word. Maybe my English is bad, or maybe they are just insecure about themselves. Impressive =! trying to impress. Google say "evoking admiration through size, quality, or skill; grand, imposing, or awesome."



However, speaking of which: This was purely unintentional, but actually I DO talk about impressing on purpose here, because what I did not mention, these people are from Dance Sport . And dance sport is all about creating great impression, that is literal purpose of doing it and winning the competitions .

Hahahaha!

But generally yes, people who try too hard, too obviously, look untrustworthy.
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Old Today, 07:31 AM
 
Location: Prague
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Originally Posted by elyn02 View Post
I know the phrase 'putting in the work' is not too helpful but I did add 'to get what you want'. Once desires can be identified clearly, acquiring them can be gradual, as you would say "growing." The only thing I would advise against is identifying a specific person as a want, which I suspect may be happening, for now. Instead, I would identify people who recognize that I am growing and see if they want to take the journey with me so that I can build relationship skills.

agree and this is precisely what I do.
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Old Today, 07:33 AM
 
Location: Prague
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I find it very hard to believe you received a job that pays three times the national average.

What grade are you in really?
Lol!

What is grade, anyway? Sorry, bad english
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Old Today, 07:33 AM
 
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generally, agree, you are very right.

I am not though not sure why people so much stick on "impressive" word. Maybe my English is bad, or maybe they are just insecure about themselves. Impressive =! trying to impress. Google say "evoking admiration through size, quality, or skill; grand, imposing, or awesome."



However, speaking of which: This was purely unintentional, but actually I DO talk about impressing on purpose here, because what I did not mention, these people are from Dance Sport . And dance sport is all about creating great impression, that is literal purpose of doing it and winning the competitions .

Hahahaha!

But generally yes, people who try too hard, too obviously, look untrustworthy.
People do tend to respond to wording. They see a certain word and how it is used and they respond accordingly. Even I'm guilty of not seeing the forest for the trees so to speak.
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Old Today, 07:38 AM
 
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maybe you'd care to post your photo before we proceed with this conversation? This usually explain a lot
Exactly! Then I wouldn’t have to tell you anything get it? Just like a person doesn’t have to tell me how smart they are, right? I’d know.
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Old Today, 08:00 AM
 
Location: Prague
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Exactly! Then I wouldn’t have to tell you anything get it? Just like a person doesn’t have to tell me how smart they are, right? I’d know.
...so why are you not posting it?

ignore list.

Edit: Would you do me a favor and put me on ignore? Thank you.
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Old Today, 08:03 AM
 
Location: Prague
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People do tend to respond to wording. They see a certain word and how it is used and they respond accordingly. Even I'm guilty of not seeing the forest for the trees so to speak.
Yes. The reason is, because they answer emotionally. Emotion behind "trying to impress = very bad!" is insecurity.

We all do this mistake, I know. Difference is, whether you self reflect or not...

Anyway, you are doing a good job! Thanks
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Old Today, 08:12 AM
 
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...so why are you not posting it?

ignore list.

Edit: Would you do me a favor and put me on ignore? Thank you.
Because you will find me Majestic, and I don’t need any more admirers.
The ignore function, yes, I can figure it out if I choose, but I don’t. You however, are lucky you aren’t trying to impress with your intelligence.
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Old Today, 08:58 AM
 
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How about you post YOUR pic, OP? Oh, that's right--you're too insecure, thus the intense focus on falsely impressing people. You don't feel as though you matter, therefore you feel you must paint a big image of yourself and attract women with flash and dazzle. Not personality.

Put me on ignore too, you're not built for this level of truth. I'm a dude but I'm far from impressed.
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