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Old Today, 09:16 AM
 
Location: Prague
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Hello,

let there be little brainstorm:

Imagine situation you are a grown adult person and you meet somebody who is impressive to you...

...That person is giving you inspiration, motivation, some strengths sense that life is suddenly much more fun and worthy of living...

But suddenly you feel your own weaknesses, your imperfections and you start to be concerned about them... Because that person is simply so strong, stronger than you. More... majestic.

You wanna change it. Right now you ate shaking squirrel and you wanna turn into sturdy oak.

If you get my drift...

OK, let us have some fun. Let's see what the reactions gonna be

(and yeah, this is a real life problem for me. No fantasy )
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Old Today, 09:18 AM
 
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It doesn't feel right. Give up and move to the next one.
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Old Today, 09:29 AM
 
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Learn to see them as your equals if they are your equal. If you are not, work on bettering yourself.
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Old Today, 09:30 AM
 
Location: Prague
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It doesn't feel right. Give up and move to the next one.
good idea. If you want to remain that squirrel your entire life.
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Old Today, 09:32 AM
 
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Learn to see them as your equals if they are your equal. If you are not, work on bettering yourself.
eeexactly. My words!

problem is... they are so many years of work ahead of you...

You are very right, this is the right approach. But you also need some sort of mind game... because regardless of how strong and satisfied about yourself you feel, 30 minutes around these people and they overwhelm you...

yeah, that's the reality

I saw nearly every man around them(her) to be the same... Haha!
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Old Today, 09:38 AM
 
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good idea. If you want to remain that squirrel your entire life.
If you feel YOU are a squirrel, it has nothing to do with who SHE is. Change yourself for YOU. Says the woman who is leaving the husband who always said I made him want to be better. Pffffft.
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Old Today, 09:43 AM
 
Location: Prague
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If you feel YOU are a squirrel, it has nothing to do with who SHE is. Change yourself for YOU. Says the woman who is leaving the husband who always said I made him want to be better. Pffffft.
there will be people who make you comfortable and those who make you conscious about yourself.

search for the the second, they force you out of your comfort zone.
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Old Today, 09:45 AM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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Majestic huh? Lol.

Insecure guys need to learn to stop putting women on a pedestal.
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Old Today, 09:47 AM
 
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You might express appreciation for some of the things that impress you about her. Recognizing her strengths in a straight forward (not fawning) way shows that you're confident enough with yourself to admit that you're impressed, and she'll likely feel acknowledged. Win-win.
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Old Today, 09:47 AM
 
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Majestic huh? Lol.

Insecure guys need to learn to stop putting women on a pedestal.
Yah. And a life pro tip. If you try to change to get the girl, you will fail.
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