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Old Today, 03:53 AM
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You say he is honest, let him tell you what happened.

“You got home late. What did you end up doing?”

Hopefully she is gone for good.
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Old Today, 04:47 AM
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Definitely bring up your disappointment in him. You made dinner for him too.

Though if they had mutual friends that could've been there too, a possibility...
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Old Today, 05:03 AM
Location: San Antonio/Houston/Tricity
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Originally Posted by recuerdeme View Post
Ask and be answered. I'm thinking the night turned into a sort of going away celebration which probably involved other friends.

Of course, try to control yourself when having the conversation.

This ^^^, so don't make a big deal of it.
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Old Today, 09:00 AM
Location: Austin
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Uh yeah, he hooked up with his ex gf and anyone can see that
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Old Today, 04:00 PM
Location: Southern California
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Originally Posted by earthisle View Post
Uh yeah, he hooked up with his ex gf and anyone can see that
I agree! He probably did. I don't know why so many people are so easygoing or in denial about it. He's been broken up from her for 3 yrs before you came along...yeah because that's what he tells you? They could have been "friends w/ benefits" all that time for all you know AND STILL F'ing each other the year you've been dating him. You'll never know. Plus, he didn't even call you so you can hear his voice when he said he'd be late, he just texted.

OP, not only do you have a right to be mad, which you shouldn't even have to ask, you should be done w/ him. Do you want to stay w/ someone like that?! GO ahead!

And another poster said this is the 1 free pass you can give him...uh why does he deserve a 1x free pass? Kick him to the curb NOW. This is disrespectful behavior & the more chances you give him, the quicker he can see that he can treat you any kind of way & you'll still hang in there.

I think women are way too docile & forgiving w/ these no-good losers. If they'd break up w/ them AFTER 1 BAD ACTION, these men will think twice before they think they can get away w/ things when they're on their next relationships.

This situation is no different from when a man hits a woman for the 1st time & the woman will make every excuse in the book to stay w/ him (he's under pressure at work these days, well, he just made this "1x" mistake, he's never done it before, but he's been nothing but kind to me all along before, yada, yada). So they stay w/ them. If someone has the audacity & character to hit someone, usually it's not just going to be that 1 & only time...just like w/ THIS situation.

OP if you want to stick around & go through the untrusting frustrations of what he does next, go ahead! You've only dated him a year which is nothing, so it's not like you've missed out on a HUGE part of your life if you dump him now. Doesn't matter if he did this 10 yrs into your relationship. If he's wrong, he's wrong & needs to be dumped. Glad my SO & I are on the same page about NOT being friends w/ any exes...we both feel there's no point.

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Old Today, 07:48 PM
Location: Northern Wisconsin
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No way should he have gone without you.
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