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Old 08-02-2019, 02:08 PM
 
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The guy I have been seeing and I have not been on a date. He claims he doesn't have the money. So he ends up at my place and we hang out there. We talked about getting a hotel and hang out there. I have known him for awhile so he is very familiar to me. But there has been no sex yet. Is this actually dating? I feel like if he can afford a hotel he can take me on a date. Am I being unreasonable or old fashioned? How do I get him to take me on a date without making it seem like I want him to spend money on me?
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Old 08-02-2019, 02:10 PM
 
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You are being you. Keep doing that. Or you can be the chick he hangs out with an eventually bangs and nothing more. You're call.
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Old 08-02-2019, 02:13 PM
 
Location: San Antonio/Houston/Tricity
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Why hotel? Can't he just hang out at your place, as usual?
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Old 08-02-2019, 02:19 PM
 
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I live with other people. I also don't want booty calls. I don't want to be the chick he bangs and nothing more.
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Old 08-02-2019, 02:34 PM
 
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I live with other people. I also don't want booty calls. I don't want to be the chick he bangs and nothing more.
Have you told him that?
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Old 08-02-2019, 02:39 PM
 
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The guy I have been seeing and I have not been on a date. He claims he doesn't have the money. So he ends up at my place and we hang out there. We talked about getting a hotel and hang out there. I have known him for awhile so he is very familiar to me. But there has been no sex yet. Is this actually dating? I feel like if he can afford a hotel he can take me on a date. Am I being unreasonable or old fashioned? How do I get him to take me on a date without making it seem like I want him to spend money on me?
Lots of men here are looking for dates and they'll pay.

Why not give it a shot?
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Old 08-02-2019, 02:42 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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The guy I have been seeing and I have not been on a date. He claims he doesn't have the money.
Lazy.

There are a million "dates" you can do in the summertime that are free.
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Old 08-02-2019, 02:44 PM
 
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How do I get him to take me on a date without making it seem like I want him to spend money on me?

Why don't you take him on a date?
Call him up, ask him to go on a bike ride or hike on a Saturday afternoon to be followed by a healthy meal at an outdoor restaurant. You pick him up too.
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Old 08-02-2019, 02:45 PM
 
Location: Evanston & Lake Forest, Illinois
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The guy I have been seeing and I have not been on a date. He claims he doesn't have the money. So he ends up at my place and we hang out there. We talked about getting a hotel and hang out there. I have known him for awhile so he is very familiar to me. But there has been no sex yet. Is this actually dating? I feel like if he can afford a hotel he can take me on a date. Am I being unreasonable or old fashioned? How do I get him to take me on a date without making it seem like I want him to spend money on me?
This is weird, and I feel like we are missing many other details to this story.
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Old 08-02-2019, 02:48 PM
 
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This doesn't sound right. Sorry, but I don't think you two are actually dating. No you are not being unreasonable or old fashioned.
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