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Old Yesterday, 10:31 PM
 
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I work with this guy, we are both in our early twenties. He always would look at me when he would walk by and act weird around me, rarely looking at me while talking and would look around and mess and play with his shirt.

It's been some time now and he has opened up some but won't talk a lot and is still rather quiet around me. He has no problems talking to the couple other women though so I'm thinking there's gotta be a reason he's like this with me.

He has made me laugh and I try to show him it's okay and he can approach me. His cheeks get rosy sometimes when he sees me or if I approach with a work related question.

His friend works with us too, this friend I have overheard getting on him to go talk to me. His friend also has tried to get me to be around him and would sometimes talk about him around me.

More recently he had started to talk and communicate more but would bounce around sometimes. He gave me really big smiles when he saw me and went out of his way to be helpful.
A couple days later it all stopped. He doesn't come around nor does he really smile. He just acts business like. I'm not sure what I did wrong.

The only thing I can think of is that this woman who we work with is trying to play match maker. She has done this before to us and he ignored me for a few days. Obviously he got over it. However this time it stings more because we were talking more this time. He did jokingly give me a hard time about making the ink run out and pretended it was a big deal. Other then that he just looks again but doesn't talk.

That's the extent to our communication now. What is wrong?

Is he embarrassed? Not interested? It's so hard to tell.

I know people say don't date where you work, but it's an internship for us both so we won't be around for long.
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Old Yesterday, 10:36 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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We have no way of knowing. You'll have to ask him.
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Old Yesterday, 10:54 PM
 
Location: South Bay Native
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Maybe he had a talking to about dipping his pen in the company ink.
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Old Today, 01:31 AM
 
Location: (six-cent-dix-sept)
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you seem to like him and think the feelings mite be mutual. you should just ask him out.
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Old Today, 02:00 AM
 
Location: San Antonio/Houston/Tricity
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Don't start any romance at work. If anything goes wrong, you both will feel awkward and co-workers will gossip. It will create very unhealthy atmosphere.
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Old Today, 03:55 AM
 
Location: Cochise county, AZ
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As the internship is ending try to give or get information on next steps to keep in touch.

Maybe ask if he'd like to go for coffee on your last day.

He might just be a really shy person and is uncomfortable with his feelings about you. Try to be a friend, not a potential date.
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Old Today, 05:15 AM
 
Location: SWFL
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Don't start any romance at work. If anything goes wrong, you both will feel awkward and co-workers will gossip. It will create very unhealthy atmosphere.
So what? Who cares if they gossip? I would have missed the best 20 years if I had cared what our co-workers thought about my late hubby and I.
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Old Today, 06:06 AM
 
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He sounds very shy. Adjust your behavior and expectations accordingly and it won't be a mystery anymore.
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Old Today, 06:29 PM
 
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When it’s time to leave hand him your number and say, “Keep in touch.”
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Old Today, 06:37 PM
 
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I'm not sure what I did wrong.
Did you fart?

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