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Old 08-05-2019, 03:24 PM
Status: "Now I know how Joan of Arc felt ..." (set 17 hours ago)
 
Location: Boulder, CO
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OP let's meet in middle, here. Between "no woman at all" and "salaried live-in sex doll and public date".


Hire an escort. Pay her for her company and "public facing" (seen with you in public). Either one woman for a set number of times (six?) or a few different ones once or twice.


Realistic looking escorts, not ones that look like a Playboy bunny or **** star. More "cute girl next door or a cubicle over from me".


Being out with them should boost your spirits, confidence. Share some witty banter and don't take it for more than it is (a transaction). Relax. Enjoy. Conversationally, find out from them (semi-involved third party) what they think your issue is. Practice the simple art of give-and-take flirting and conversation. Maybe they have a friend, or suggestion, advice, ...


Another idea is from an article I read about eight years ago, men were paying women to be their girlfriends on-line. The women would set up a Facebook account, with friends and pics and all, and men would be "their girlfriends" … the contract bought a certain number of messages on their wall, pics together doing things, stuff like that. It was just to present a relationship "front" on-line.


I'm surprised no one suggested you pursue bringing a foreign national from overseas over. I'll just proffer that without further comment.


Just three random, stream-of-consciousness ideas ...
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Old 08-05-2019, 03:34 PM
 
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OP let's meet in middle, here. Between "no woman at all" and "salaried live-in sex doll and public date".


Hire an escort. Pay her for her company and "public facing" (seen with you in public). Either one woman for a set number of times (six?) or a few different ones once or twice.


Realistic looking escorts, not ones that look like a Playboy bunny or **** star. More "cute girl next door or a cubicle over from me".


Being out with them should boost your spirits, confidence. Share some witty banter and don't take it for more than it is (a transaction). Relax. Enjoy. Conversationally, find out from them (semi-involved third party) what they think your issue is. Practice the simple art of give-and-take flirting and conversation. Maybe they have a friend, or suggestion, advice, ...


Another idea is from an article I read about eight years ago, men were paying women to be their girlfriends on-line. The women would set up a Facebook account, with friends and pics and all, and men would be "their girlfriends" … the contract bought a certain number of messages on their wall, pics together doing things, stuff like that. It was just to present a relationship "front" on-line.


I'm surprised no one suggested you pursue bringing a foreign national from overseas over. I'll just proffer that without further comment.


Just three random, stream-of-consciousness ideas ...
How does hiring an escort help to bolster a person's self esteem? I don't get it. You're paying someone to sleep with you who otherwise would not sleep with you. While you're having sex she's looking at her watch wishing for it to be over. How much alcohol do you have to drink on your "date" with the escort to forget that fact. It's very sad. I don't understand why anyone would tolerate that.

I actually think that maybe OP would have more luck getting a mail order bride, too, but I would feel sorry for the poor woman given how angry he already seems.
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Old 08-05-2019, 05:04 PM
Status: "Now I know how Joan of Arc felt ..." (set 17 hours ago)
 
Location: Boulder, CO
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How does hiring an escort help to bolster a person's self esteem? I don't get it. You're paying someone to sleep with you who otherwise would not sleep with you. While you're having sex she's looking at her watch wishing for it to be over. How much alcohol do you have to drink on your "date" with the escort to forget that fact. It's very sad. I don't understand why anyone would tolerate that.

Good question, I was not thinking of sex at all ("escort" vs "prostitute") but rather the natural high he might enjoy from being seen in public with an attractive, well dressed woman. And any help she might be able to provide (advice), and the practice at the art of banter, over a good meal.


Now that you mention it, going to a prostitute might not be the worst idea either. A trip to the Cadillac Ranch (is that a thing?) or something.
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Old 08-05-2019, 05:12 PM
 
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How can it possibly bolster his self esteem to be seen with someone who he's paying to be out with him? Reality will hit hard that none of it is real. It won't make him feel good if he's got any kind of grip on reality.
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Old 08-05-2019, 05:25 PM
Status: "Now I know how Joan of Arc felt ..." (set 17 hours ago)
 
Location: Boulder, CO
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How can it possibly bolster his self esteem to be seen with someone who he's paying to be out with him? Reality will hit hard that none of it is real. It won't make him feel good if he's got any kind of grip on reality.

Maybe you're right, Carly, but when I am out with a pretty date I feel different than when I eat out alone (which I force myself to do). Call it endorphins, maybe … I feel more confident, can look around/survey the room without feeling awkward. It is often commented on the board that when a guy seems to be "with someone who is attractive", he is viewed differently than as "a schlub out by himself" or whatever.


Of course it isn't real … if he hired her to go out with him … but for a limited number of times it might help. If she doesn't look like an adult file star or a kewpie doll, who else would know ?
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Old 08-05-2019, 05:35 PM
 
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Maybe you're right, Carly, but when I am out with a pretty date I feel different than when I eat out alone (which I force myself to do). Call it endorphins, maybe … I feel more confident, can look around/survey the room without feeling awkward. It is often commented on the board that when a guy seems to be "with someone who is attractive", he is viewed differently than as "a schlub out by himself" or whatever.


Of course it isn't real … if he hired her to go out with him … but for a limited number of times it might help. If she doesn't look like an adult file star or a kewpie doll, who else would know ?
But don't you feel good in that situation because the person chose you?
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Old 08-05-2019, 05:39 PM
 
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I’ve recently been thinking about how to get a girlfriend. I’ve actually been dwelling on this for years. But recently I’ve thought about the idea of just “hiring” a girlfriend.

I don’t mean like a prostitute. It would essentially be a situation wherein I pay a girl a salary to perform the functions of being my girlfriend.

I know this is the only way I could ever get close to having a girlfriend. If I had to go about it the normal way, I would never get one.

I’m okay with the “illusion” of love. I can convince myself it’s real. I don’t really care if she’s faking it. As long as I can pay for it and have it there. Seems it would cut through much of the bullcrap too, like the “courtship” and all that stuff that would just be long, tedious, and ultimately would wind up with me never getting anything from a woman.

What do you think of this?
Somewhat unusual idea.

I have a better idea. Find a way to be happy single.

I know the internet is not the best representation of society as a whole, but there seems to be so many desperate men.
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Old 08-05-2019, 05:40 PM
 
Location: Crook County, Illinois
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Methinks the OP is overdue for a visit to a visit to a certain place: https://goo.gl/maps/adQej33phJUGpa4b9

It's the only state with legal prostitution. Yes, I know the OP said sex isn't a priority for him, but I have a feeling that a little bit of bow-chicka-wow-wow with an attractive woman could do wonders for his self-esteem. He doesn't even have to do full-fledged sexual intercourse. I'm sure the prostie won't mind. Granted, it won't be cheap either way, but still.
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Old 08-05-2019, 05:40 PM
 
Location: new to the BA & l o v e it
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I’ve recently been thinking about how to get a girlfriend. I’ve actually been dwelling on this for years. But recently I’ve thought about the idea of just “hiring” a girlfriend.

I don’t mean like a prostitute. It would essentially be a situation wherein I pay a girl a salary to perform the functions of being my girlfriend.

I know this is the only way I could ever get close to having a girlfriend. If I had to go about it the normal way, I would never get one.

I’m okay with the “illusion” of love. I can convince myself it’s real. I don’t really care if she’s faking it. As long as I can pay for it and have it there. Seems it would cut through much of the bullcrap too, like the “courtship” and all that stuff that would just be long, tedious, and ultimately would wind up with me never getting anything from a woman.

What do you think of this?
This is really sad..........& sounds so lonely. Why are you against trying to find a real relationship for the right reasons?
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Old 08-05-2019, 05:46 PM
 
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Methinks the OP is overdue for a visit to a visit to a certain place: https://goo.gl/maps/adQej33phJUGpa4b9

It's the only state with legal prostitution. Yes, I know the OP said sex isn't a priority for him, but I have a feeling that a little bit of bow-chicka-wow-wow with an attractive woman could do wonders for his self-esteem. He doesn't even have to do full-fledged sexual intercourse. I'm sure the prostie won't mind. Granted, it won't be cheap either way, but still.
How does that work? I don't understand how paying someone to have sex with you bolsters self esteem. The woman is not wanting to have sex with you but is doing it only because you're paying her. She wouldn't do it otherwise. Lol. It's not a compliment that a prostitute sleeps with you.
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