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Old Yesterday, 02:33 PM
 
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I've been having such a tough time dating. Whenever things seem to be going in a positive direction, and when I mention that I'm a single parent, it's like a popped balloon. I've no idea how to deal with this. Does anyone have any advice?

 
Old Yesterday, 02:46 PM
 
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Maybe mention it right up front? If its a dealbreaker, then it is. No point wasting everyone's time.
 
Old Yesterday, 02:47 PM
 
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Maybe mention it right up front? If its a dealbreaker, then it is. No point wasting everyone's time.
End of topic. The above post said it all.
 
Old Yesterday, 03:10 PM
 
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The best bet is to date other single parents. They understand.
 
Old Yesterday, 03:57 PM
 
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I've been having such a tough time dating. Whenever things seem to be going in a positive direction, and when I mention that I'm a single parent, it's like a popped balloon. I've no idea how to deal with this. Does anyone have any advice?
There isn't anything you can do other than accept it. As another poster mentioned, it's best to be upfront about it. If it's a problem for the other person then so be it.

I'll also add that you shouldn't resent your kid for existing. It's not his/her fault that there are people that don't want to date single parents. It's not your fault either, so don't get down on yourself.
 
Old Yesterday, 05:25 PM
 
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Really? Are you sure it's the single parent thing? Seems to me there are a lot of single parents with significant others.
 
Old Yesterday, 05:58 PM
 
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When I was in my late 20s and trying online dating - it is true that I had zero interest in dating a single mom.

However - after 15 years of marriage, I was in my mid 40s and divorced. I had a 10 year old, at the time of my divorce (he is 12 now). How could I set that criteria, when I am a single father?

It no longer bothered me. And, if I looked for someone single at my age, more than likely they would have a child of some age. When I did my profile, I made it clear that I was a single father - and I even had a photo of the 2 of us together making christmas cookies.

It was not an issue for me. In fact, I had women tell me that they were happy to see that I had such a relationship with my son.

So, what's my point? Don't hide it. She, it may eliminate some people. But when you do meet someone - they will at least already know.
 
Old Yesterday, 08:38 PM
 
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I've been having such a tough time dating. Whenever things seem to be going in a positive direction, and when I mention that I'm a single parent, it's like a popped balloon. I've no idea how to deal with this. Does anyone have any advice?
The reason why many childless, single adults do not want to date single parents is because the odds are very high that the child won't get along with the step parent at some point. It's very common. Teens often rebel against their BIOLOGICAL parents, aunts, uncles, etc. If they can do that to their own blood relatives, imagine the rejection of a step parent.

The best compromise is probably to date another single parent because there are very many of them. You are not alone.
 
Old Yesterday, 09:32 PM
 
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Why don't you look into a local Parents without Partners chapter?
 
Old Yesterday, 09:41 PM
 
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I've been having such a tough time dating. Whenever things seem to be going in a positive direction, and when I mention that I'm a single parent, it's like a popped balloon. I've no idea how to deal with this. Does anyone have any advice?
Yeah, the advice is, don't give up. People always have preferences. Some wont date short folks, or tall ones, or red heads or whatever. It's a big old world and somewhere there is someone for you who wont care if your a single parent or not. There is someone for everyone. Don't stress it, don't lie about it, don't hide it. Just don't give up.
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