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Old 08-05-2019, 06:34 AM
 
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Recently, I was beginning to talk to someone I met from online. We had a good convo on the phone before meeting up. When we met in person, we discussed tentatively meeting up the next day to go for breakfast. He mentioned that he would reach out the next day to schedule plans. The next day comes and I donít hear from him until the evening (canít remember if it was the evening or the following day). I gave him the cold shoulder because he pretty much stood me up. I told him why I was perturbed with him and he did not see an issue. He apologized, mentioned that he got called into work unexpectedly and had a busy day. We talked on the phone and I mentioned that I would consider wanting to talk to him again. He follows up the next day to check on me and I ghosted him.
In my opinion, the time to have these thoughts was before you ghosted him. Now it just comes off as playing games. Leave this one. Move on to the next.
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Old 08-05-2019, 09:17 AM
 
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If it’s only the second time I’ve talked to a potential romantic interest and they are already telling they’re “perturbed with me” and why, well... good bye. Who needs that.

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Old 08-05-2019, 09:34 AM
 
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I think it's weirder that you decided to play a childish game despite not knowing the reason he didn't call. Then later on after discussing the issues and he apologized and followed up, you ghosted him? And all this after 1 date?

I'd run, not walk away from you.
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Old 08-05-2019, 07:38 PM
 
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nope.
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Old 08-06-2019, 04:38 AM
Status: "I don't FEEL tardy." (set 9 days ago)
 
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"B-b-but wait, I've lost weight and I'm pretty!!!! You're all supposed to tell me I'm RIGHT!!!"
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Old 08-06-2019, 07:14 AM
 
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I think it's weirder that you decided to play a childish game despite not knowing the reason he didn't call. Then later on after discussing the issues and he apologized and followed up, you ghosted him? And all this after 1 date?

I'd run, not walk away from you.
I do know why he didnít call, he said he was at work
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Old 08-06-2019, 08:30 AM
 
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Recently, I was beginning to talk to someone I met from online. We had a good convo on the phone before meeting up. When we met in person, we discussed tentatively meeting up the next day to go for breakfast. He mentioned that he would reach out the next day to schedule plans. The next day comes and I donít hear from him until the evening (canít remember if it was the evening or the following day). I gave him the cold shoulder because he pretty much stood me up. I told him why I was perturbed with him and he did not see an issue. He apologized, mentioned that he got called into work unexpectedly and had a busy day. We talked on the phone and I mentioned that I would consider wanting to talk to him again. He follows up the next day to check on me and I ghosted him.

Wasn't it JUST yesterday that I read a post from you, wondering why you never had relationships???


Well, here's an example of why you don't have relationships. Good lord.
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Old 08-06-2019, 08:37 AM
 
Location: southern california
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You were stood up you accepted it
The stage is set for this play to begin
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Old 08-07-2019, 01:18 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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NOPE, no 2nd chance here...NOT when everyone has a cell phone attached to their hip these days & it would have only taken a quick second to text you really fast that he couldn't make it. Plus, there are phones at his work too that he could have used for a quick second.

Just think, he could have texted you really quick when he was on his lunch break, walking to or from the bathroom, etc. during his "busy work day", so just being busy is NO excuse for me & it shouldn't be a legit excuse for ANYONE anymore.

Men/people need to learn that they can't treat people like this, but it's up to the ones they're treating like disposable trash to hold firm & stand up to them & NOT buckle.
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Old 08-07-2019, 03:03 PM
 
Location: Moreno Valley, Ca
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I'm pretty laid-back but I would have given him a second chance. He did not "stand you up"- were you all dressed up and ready to go somewhere and he never showed? That's being stood up.

Early in the relationship with the guy I'm now seeing, he showed up way late for a lunch date. I didn't have his phone number- only e-mail. He had the wrong restaurant in his head so showed up at the wrong place. I knew that he'd retired at age 61 from his legal practice as a public defender after burning out and not showing up when he was supposed to, being in one place when he was supposed to be someplace else, getting his schedule messed up...I figured he may still have had that quirk.

He was very apologetic, we had a nice lunch and the rest is history. Sometimes he's 5 or 10 minutes late but that's it and I can tolerate that. I'm glad I didn't just write him off.
This. I would have given him a second chance. Things happen.
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