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Old 08-04-2019, 09:37 PM
 
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When I thought about it my narcissist kept me a secret from people close to him. I found he had a totally different persona with me than with others...like the other woman he cheated with or made me a side chick for. I found he was more of a street bad boy guy but with her but acted more book smart and tamed and as if he was really a professional businessman with me. Ironically I learned that he.....sells drugs.

If read my prior post I thankfully discarded him. I am feeling better these days but my interest in narcissisism has peaked a bit...hence my new question.

Thanks to all of you who posted encouragement in my last thread to be done with this guy.
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Old 08-04-2019, 09:40 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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When I thought about it my narcissist kept me a secret from people close to him. I found he had a totally different persona with me than with others...like the other woman he cheated with or made me a side chick for. I found he was more of a street bad boy guy but with her but acted more book smart and tamed and as if he was really a professional businessman with me. Ironically I learned that he.....sells drugs.

If read my prior post I thankfully discarded him. I am feeling better these days but my interest in narcissisism has peaked a bit...hence my new question.

Thanks to all of you who posted encouragement in my last thread to be done with this guy.
A good or valuable supply of what? Naivete?

Why would you try to frame this person in a positive way, or make that involvement look like a positive for you??
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Old 08-04-2019, 10:02 PM
 
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A good or valuable supply of what? Naivete?

Why would you try to frame this person in a positive way, or make that involvement look like a positive for you??
I wasn't saying it as a positive....except it being good I moved on. Perhaps I need to reword? My question is really based on curiosity about narrcisst behavior.
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Old 08-04-2019, 10:04 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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I wasn't saying it as a positive....except it being good I moved on. Perhaps I need to reword? My question is really based on curiosity about narrcisst behavior.
Your title says, "If a narcissist keeps you a secret does it mean you are a good or valuable supply?"

What does that mean?
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Old 08-04-2019, 10:06 PM
 
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Your title says, "If a narcissist keeps you a secret does it mean you are a good or valuable supply?"

What does that mean?
https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/w...sistic-supply/
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Old 08-04-2019, 10:08 PM
 
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When I thought about it my narcissist kept me a secret from people close to him. I found he had a totally different persona with me than with others...like the other woman he cheated with or made me a side chick for. I found he was more of a street bad boy guy but with her but acted more book smart and tamed and as if he was really a professional businessman with me. Ironically I learned that he.....sells drugs.

If read my prior post I thankfully discarded him. I am feeling better these days but my interest in narcissisism has peaked a bit...hence my new question.

Thanks to all of you who posted encouragement in my last thread to be done with this guy.
In my experience, narcissists don't tend to keep someone around in a personal relationship, if they're not source of supply or bolstering their ego in some way.

Narcissists just do whatever the hell serves them without considering anyone else. So if you were kept a secret that was because it suited him.
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Old 08-05-2019, 12:51 AM
 
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When I thought about it my narcissist kept me a secret from people close to him. I found he had a totally different persona with me than with others...like the other woman he cheated with or made me a side chick for. I found he was more of a street bad boy guy but with her but acted more book smart and tamed and as if he was really a professional businessman with me. Ironically I learned that he.....sells drugs.

If read my prior post I thankfully discarded him. I am feeling better these days but my interest in narcissisism has peaked a bit...hence my new question.

Thanks to all of you who posted encouragement in my last thread to be done with this guy.
The thing with a narcissist is that you are better off being away from them. Not safe to deal with them more than you have to.
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Old 08-05-2019, 08:40 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
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OP, he kept you a secret, because you were a side chick to his main woman. End of story. Don't read anything more into it.

lolz at a drug dealer presenting himself to women as a "professional businessman".
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Old 08-05-2019, 08:47 AM
 
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my narcissist
If a person uses the term "my narcissist", does that mean that person is a narcissist?
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Old 08-05-2019, 09:09 AM
 
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Your title says, "If a narcissist keeps you a secret does it mean you are a good or valuable supply?"

What does that mean?
Apparently terms and buzzwords used by YouTube therapists aren’t common irl therapy community

Yes, OP, keeping you a secret makes for an even better “supply”.
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