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Old 08-04-2019, 11:40 PM
 
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Hi ive know a girl for more than 8 years because we were in high school and univeristy together but we almost never talk to each other, im not thinking of trying to have a relationship with her, i just want to know her a little better, So last friday i decided to send her a message on facebook chat, and the conversation was very good, in the end of the conversation, i invited her to go out next week (This week) she said it was okay and even she said we could go on friday or saturday she gave me her phone number and we said throught the week i would call her to set the day,place, time and everything.

i call her last wensday and the conversation was very cool , in the end when i asked if she was going to be able to go out on friday or saturday (as she said she could) she told me she had things to do ( i believed the reason she gave me why she couldnt go) , i asked her if she could go on sunday or any other time next week , she told she works on sundays...last thing i asked her...was if she was okay i call her next week to know if she had some free day, but she didnt reply the message.

What do you think it happend? should i talk to her again? or what shold i do? one friend told me if i talk to her again i would lose mi dignity but i think he overeacted a little bit or is he right?
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Old Yesterday, 01:58 AM
 
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Do you want to pursue a relationship or not? Isn't dating sort of a means to that end? Seems to be more important to you than you admit. I don't see why asking her again will damage your dignity. OTOH, if "preserving" some sort of dignity is more important than a potential relationship, perhaps you've answered your own question.
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Old Yesterday, 03:18 AM
 
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Do you want to pursue a relationship or not? Isn't dating sort of a means to that end? Seems to be more important to you than you admit. I don't see why asking her again will damage your dignity. OTOH, if "preserving" some sort of dignity is more important than a potential relationship, perhaps you've answered your own question.
I want to know her a little more,thats why i wanted to go out with her...just hang out as friends.
Is understandable if she thought i invented her as a date. Maybe i Rush things and i shouldve talked to her more and getting to know a her better so that she wouldnt thought i was inviting her as a date.

if that is the case maybe is not too late to fix things and talk to her,getting to know her better so she could see that im just trying to be her friend, right?
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Old Yesterday, 03:47 AM
 
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Nope. Don’t contact her again.

She doesn’t want to further this relationship let alone conversation.
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Old Yesterday, 04:03 AM
 
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Nope. Don’t contact her again.

She doesn’t want to further this relationship let alone conversation.
Thanks for reply. I appreciated your advise.

Do you think maybe i rush thinks with her?
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Old Yesterday, 07:50 AM
 
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Thanks for reply. I appreciated your advise.

Do you think maybe i rush thinks with her?
It's not aboug rushing things, main issue is that this woman isn't "feeling it" to a point where she doesn't respond promptly enough, ignores you or seems to be unable to find "time" for you. Don't contact her again and forget the whole thing, instead of making excuses to be a moron and potentially give her a case to sabotage you in front of her girlfriends and other women she knows by getting the stalker label.

You should slam that door (your attempt to hit it off), apply sour grapes mantra (regardless if true or not) and pursue other women instead. She made her choice, don't let that choice to tie you to a lost case. Cut it and move on!
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Old Yesterday, 07:56 AM
 
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what shold i do?
You gave her several opportunities. She could have initiated a suggestion for a future date. She didn't. Move on.
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Old Today, 03:45 AM
 
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Thanks for reply. I appreciated your advise.

Do you think maybe i rush thinks with her?
Well, you came off a little desperate.

I mean, when Friday and Saturday was out you said ‘how about Sunday or any other day.’

Sometimes it’s a hunt. When you spot what you want you can’t attack. It’s a ‘be cool.’ Let it (her) come to you. Allow her to become attracted to you. If you’re too forward they will run away. Most likely in your case.
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