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Old Today, 12:31 AM
 
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Yeah, I'm way out of your weight class. I went from 375 to 235. Still pudgy, but I don't look bad. My height helps there.

10% body fat, that's a tall order past age 30. Good luck.
Actually a rough estimate, might be closer to 15%. Just whatever works for me.

And I'm between 5'11 and 6'0
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What is funny is that it is not intended, most often, as either judgement or shaming. It is often the case that those who feel judged and shamed are feeling shame themselves. That might be a good place to start. Especially since we know that confidence, real confidence, is actually a requirement for a good relationship.
The thing is though, most everyone lacks confidence in their lives from time to time, but I wouldn't say it would be detrimental to a relationship. It's a flaw or fault just like anything else.
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Old Today, 04:12 AM
 
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The thing is though, most everyone lacks confidence in their lives from time to time, but I wouldn't say it would be detrimental to a relationship. It's a flaw or fault just like anything else.
Shrug. Serious low confidence is something I would advise anyone to RUN from. But that is me. Truth is confidence, or really its lack, is something that broadcasts itself in pretty unattractive ways making getting INTO a relationship hard... unless you are one of those charm monkeys who is able to delay the expression of confidence and self esteem issues until later in the game.
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Old Today, 04:39 AM
 
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Shrug. Serious low confidence is something I would advise anyone to RUN from. But that is me. Truth is confidence, or really its lack, is something that broadcasts itself in pretty unattractive ways making getting INTO a relationship hard... unless you are one of those charm monkeys who is able to delay the expression of confidence and self esteem issues until later in the game.
Right, honestly, I've heard women countlessly say, "I just a love a man with confidence!" Confidence also has certain levels too it.

Funny, I rarely hear men mention their #1 characteristic in a woman is that of confidence though. Wonder why that is?
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Old Today, 04:42 AM
 
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I know a guy who claims to be very EDGY when he has conversations with women. Some are turned on by it, some are turned off. The latter, he doesn't give a crap...and that, my friend, is what makes him attractive to women. So I'm likely to be best matched with women that are turned off by him.

Some see him as arrogant, cocky, and an outright jerk (these women I tend to match well with)...other women tend to fall at his feet via his rather edgy comments and verbiage. Usually the more conservative, nerdy girls don't like that.

So it's perspective really, what's to one woman that "confident", the other considers "cocky or arrogant" a poor characteristic...at least t o them.
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Old Today, 06:29 AM
 
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Right, honestly, I've heard women countlessly say, "I just a love a man with confidence!" Confidence also has certain levels too it.

Funny, I rarely hear men mention their #1 characteristic in a woman is that of confidence though. Wonder why that is?
Um. Cuz that is not their #1 desired characteristic? Not sure what you mean by why that is?
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Old Today, 09:31 AM
 
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Right, honestly, I've heard women countlessly say, "I just a love a man with confidence!" Confidence also has certain levels too it.

Funny, I rarely hear men mention their #1 characteristic in a woman is that of confidence though. Wonder why that is?
Men are looked at as the leaders\ decision makers so confidence is a must for us. Woman look up to us literally and figuratively in relationships as the authority figures.

A lot of women can’t even handle telling us what food they want lol never mind making tough decisions

But it’s also a vague term in attraction because nobodies always confident it just basically means social confidence enough to approach her
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Old Today, 09:34 AM
 
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Men are looked at as the leaders\ decision makers so confidence is a must for us. Woman look up to us literally and figuratively in relationships as the authority figures.

A lot of women canít even handle telling us what food they want lol never mind making tough decisions

But itís also a vague term in attraction because nobodies always confident it just basically means social confidence enough to approach her
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Old Today, 09:40 AM
 
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A lot of women canít even handle telling us what food they want lol never mind making tough decisions
That comment is sexist. Women can be decisive too, it's not an exclusively male trait.
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Old Today, 09:43 AM
 
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Men are looked at as the leaders\ decision makers so confidence is a must for us. Woman look up to us literally and figuratively in relationships as the authority figures.

A lot of women canít even handle telling us what food they want lol never mind making tough decisions

But itís also a vague term in attraction because nobodies always confident it just basically means social confidence enough to approach her
Are you married or have an S/O?
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