I ended a toxic relationship and now I want her back (feeling, abusive)
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Some people are happy being unhappy. Whatever works for you.
That goes back to the familiarity thing. The pull of familiarity is often stronger than the pull of happiness, especially if you had an unstable, unhappy, or chaotic childhood.
That goes back to the familiarity thing. The pull of familiarity is often stronger than the pull of happiness, especially if you had an unstable, unhappy, or chaotic childhood.
Before I ended the relationship we had been talking about moving in together. I've found that by thinking about what my life would have been like if we had done that has really helped me a lot.
It would have been complete and utter misery and unhappiness for me 100%.
Focusing on that has actually helped me stop missing her to a certain degree. Not completely but enough to help me feel a lot better.
Before I ended the relationship we had been talking about moving in together. I've found that by thinking about what my life would have been like if we had done that has really helped me a lot.
It would have been complete and utter misery and unhappiness for me 100%.
Focusing on that has actually helped me stop missing her to a certain degree. Not completely but enough to help me feel a lot better.
I broke up with a woman a couple of months ago. I was unhappy in the relationship and when it ended I was relieved and happy. Unfortunately I now feel like I'm missing her and I really want her back.
The thing is I know if we got back together I would be unhappy again.
Why do I feel like I want her back when I know it would end up with me being unhappy again?
I broke up with a woman a couple of months ago. I was unhappy in the relationship and when it ended I was relieved and happy. Unfortunately I now feel like I'm missing her and I really want her back.
The thing is I know if we got back together I would be unhappy again.
Why do I feel like I want her back when I know it would end up with me being unhappy again?
My take:
You don't miss being with her.
You miss having a companion to share your life with.
Easiest way is to find another.. The better way is to give yourself some time to work through your feelings.
I broke up with a woman a couple of months ago. I was unhappy in the relationship and when it ended I was relieved and happy. Unfortunately I now feel like I'm missing her and I really want her back.
The thing is I know if we got back together I would be unhappy again.
Why do I feel like I want her back when I know it would end up with me being unhappy again?
That's the addictive quality of relationships. Usually when you're with someone ttoxic, usually they are very good and very bad. There's an abuse cycle. Bad behavior followed by wonderful behavior, they're just so sorry for what they've done. You get hooked on the good. You know they're bad so you leave but then you miss the good.
I guess every relationship has it's good and bad. Do we listen to our head or our heart? When you're young, I think your heart for most. But where has that got most?
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