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Old 08-25-2019, 10:43 PM
 
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Why would you even see this guy after 7 years, huh? Just why? For "closure"? That's on you...smh
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Old 08-25-2019, 10:50 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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OP, you need to learn to recognize red flags in people's behavior, and to take them seriously. Otherwise, you could get yourself in some very bad situations. If something feels "off", trust your instincts, and cut off contact. Learn to trust your own perceptions.
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Old 08-25-2019, 11:26 PM
 
Location: USA
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Why would you even see this guy after 7 years, huh? Just why? For "closure"? That's on you...smh
I too am not sure why I decided to give us a 2nd chance. Yes he had ghosted me, but for that 1 month when we were connected, he was treating me nice back then. I thought he must have changed his mind now, must really be interested and matured. However, I shouldn't have agreed on meeting when I had taken the decision to move on.
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Old 08-25-2019, 11:28 PM
 
Location: USA
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OP, you need to learn to recognize red flags in people's behavior, and to take them seriously. Otherwise, you could get yourself in some very bad situations. If something feels "off", trust your instincts, and cut off contact. Learn to trust your own perceptions.
Yup, shouldn't have stepped back on my decision of not taking it further. I thought, things might be different and better in-person, but it was actually worst. I am even surprised on how did he suddenly decide to meet, when he was not talking over the phone for 2-3 weeks before the meeting.
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Old 08-26-2019, 09:28 AM
 
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It sounds like he's bipolar. Anyway whatever is going on with him mentally, you definitely want no part of. Be happy that he ghosted you.
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Old 08-26-2019, 10:34 AM
 
Location: St Louis MO area
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Wow - can you imagine putting up with this, day after day, year after year? How about if you had children together and you felt trapped and still had to put up with the tantrums and verbal abuse? How long until he started physically abusing you and your children? Guys like this never change. Please OP, totally cut him off and do not answer one single call or text or email or message. You will be saving yourself a ton of heartbreak. Just move on.
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Old Today, 09:25 AM
 
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Lady, YOU are a nutcase!
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Old Today, 09:51 AM
 
Location: Kansas City North
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We always appreciate follow up stories here on C-D but, dang! Iím not sure that nutcase was worth the time it took to write up the synopsis of your weekend with him.
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Old Today, 10:31 AM
 
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I feel gross and creeped out when I read you met with him in person and kissed. Hope you didn't get herpes
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