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Old Yesterday, 12:22 AM
 
Location: Continental Europe
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I think I would also be disturbed by it in her place. But that's just me
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Old Yesterday, 12:32 AM
 
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No doubt that your intent wasn't to deceive her... however you don't know how she felt and interpreted the situation. Your intent and reality is interpreted through your eyes only influenced by your feelings; and hers is the same.

A person in a bad mood is going to interpret the worst of the day's happenings. A person in a good mood is going to see the best of the day's happenings. Feelings do matter; her's especially in your situation. You need to discuss them with her.

I'm assuming that this won't be the last sex scene or even movie kiss you will perform; don't make it a recurring theme in your relationship.


PS. Since Elnina mentioned porn star, I am assuming the details that got edited out revolved around some soft core type of work. Keep in mind, that is a type of sex work and it isn't uncommon for people in that line of work to encounter relationship issues because of their work. You'll need to try especially hard at building a foundation for your relationship. The reality some people simply cannot accept it; and a lot of those working in sex work simply avoid it by not having relationships.... it is the reality of things.
Oh well I thought it might be a bit weird for her, but had to make a decision as to whether or not I was going to take the job, and she was working at the time, to be able to talk to her.

But yes I don't want to start anything negative for sure.
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Old Yesterday, 05:03 AM
 
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But... on the other (many) threads you discussed with us your Arousal Disorders and the fact that you can't really perform it right and using the blue pill since you were 18. Thus your preference to masturbate and watch porn. Are you sure you were the right candidate for the performance?
http://www.city-data.com/forum/51004739-post3.html



Well, yeah..... lol!
Iím quite sure they didnít actually show anything. Theyre not making a porno.
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Old Yesterday, 10:36 AM
 
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Yeah the rape scene is shown in flashback glimpses so the only thing you see is the back of my head and shoulders, and my hands. That's it. You don't see my face even, from the angles they did.
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Old Today, 10:51 AM
 
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Well I talked to my friend about it and asked his opinion and he said that if my gf took an acting part where he had to hook up with another guy on screen, even if it was just a job, he would dump her. Is that overreacting though, or does he have a legitimate point?
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Old Today, 10:56 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Well I talked to my friend about it and asked his opinion and he said that if my gf took an acting part where he had to hook up with another guy on screen, even if it was just a job, he would dump her. Is that overreacting though, or does he have a legitimate point?
It's his opinion, so it's legitimate in his life.

It's amazing to me that this girl is still hanging around you at all, given everything you two have experienced.
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Old Today, 11:03 AM
 
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It's his opinion, so it's legitimate in his life.

It's amazing to me that this girl is still hanging around you at all, given everything you two have experienced.

He only posts about their disagreements, I'm sure they have good times as well. I don't think this is anything terrible. My ex was a commercial photographer, one of the catalogs he did was lingerie. Not like Victoria's secret or anything, more for all age women, but I was extremely jealous. I gave him a very hard time even though he was very trustworthy.



They are both disabled, they are trying to navigate a relationship when at least one of them has a disability that makes it hard for him to understand what's right and wrong socially and in relationships. He here asking because he's trying to figure it out.
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Old Today, 11:10 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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He only posts about their disagreements, I'm sure they have good times as well. I don't think this is anything terrible. My ex was a commercial photographer, one of the catalogs he did was lingerie. Not like Victoria's secret or anything, more for all age women, but I was extremely jealous. I gave him a very hard time even though he was very trustworthy.



They are both disabled, they are trying to navigate a relationship when at least one of them has a disability that makes it hard for him to understand what's right and wrong socially and in relationships. He here asking because he's trying to figure it out.
I know his situation very well, thanks.

Even without factoring in the "good times," he has put this woman through the wringer.
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Old Today, 04:29 PM
 
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I can see why it would bother her, personally I'd be bothered too. People are bothered by watching porn, but imo acting with another person is a step beyond porn, even if you dont have feelings for the other person or penetrate their body

So people who date others that pose nude, acts, stars in movies, gogo dances, strips, or whatever that requires nudity or sexual scenes needs to be pretty open minded about these things. Not everyone is comfortable with it. You guys just need to work out if its something that's a deal breaker for the relationship. If you can deal with it, or if the relationship or the job needs to go.

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Old Today, 04:40 PM
 
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Oh I don't think she's materialistic at all, she just worries I think that something will happen.
Maybe have speak with the actress?
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