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Old Today, 05:39 PM
 
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I can see why it would bother her, personally I'd be bothered too. People are bothered by watching porn, but imo acting with another person is a step beyond porn, even if you dont have feelings for the other person or penetrate their body

So people who date others that pose nude, acts, stars in movies, gogo dances, strips, or whatever that requires nudity or sexual scenes needs to be pretty open minded about these things. Not everyone is comfortable with it. You guys just need to work out if its something that's a deal breaker for the relationship. If you can deal with it, or if the relationship or the job needs to go.
Oh okay I thought that porn may be worse, cause it's not a job, but just done for pleasure, where as I was doing this solely as a job. Plus with porn, it's sexual in the sense, that you are alone, where as with with a movie shoot, having a crew around shooting you kills any pleasure a person could have from it. Not that I have any pleasure from it, but if I did, it wouldn't happen cause it's a shoot. How's a person suppose to be aroused, when you have a director cutting and resetting takes every few seconds?

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Maybe have speak with the actress?
Speak to her about what?
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Old Today, 05:43 PM
 
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Oh okay I thought that porn may be worse, cause it's not a job, but just done for pleasure, where as I was doing this solely as a job. Plus with porn, it's sexual in the sense, that you are alone, where as with with a movie shoot, having a crew around shooting you kills any pleasure a person could have from it. Not that I have any pleasure from it, but if I did, it wouldn't happen cause it's a shoot. How's a person suppose to be aroused, when you have a director cutting and resetting takes every few seconds?

maybe it's a perception thing? Maybe it's an age or maturity thing? For a guy in teens or 20s, he'd probably have been standing at attention the whole time if grinding or smooching away at an attractive young female, regardless of relationship status. would she feel more comfortable if you invited her to watch? If it really is as platonic and professional as you say, there shouldnt be issues with that?
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Old Today, 05:46 PM
 
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Invite her to the set, if you can. Observing the professionalism of just doing a job might help her understand.

I’ll also parrot the maturity thing. Back in the day it would have bothered me a lot to have my girl acting out sex scenes. Today, I’d be a helluva lot more lax on that.
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Old Today, 05:48 PM
 
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Well I wouldn't be able to act if she was watching though. She already said she that it bothers her so if I invite her to watch, then I will get self conscious about it, which will affect my acting for sure.
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Old Today, 05:50 PM
 
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Oh okay I thought that porn may be worse, cause it's not a job, but just done for pleasure, where as I was doing this solely as a job. Plus with porn, it's sexual in the sense, that you are alone, where as with with a movie shoot, having a crew around shooting you kills any pleasure a person could have from it. Not that I have any pleasure from it, but if I did, it wouldn't happen cause it's a shoot. How's a person suppose to be aroused, when you have a director cutting and resetting takes every few seconds?



Speak to her about what?
Speak to her about the sex scene. Her professionalism, etc. Maybe, the lady has a life of her own. A husband, kids,etc.
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Old Today, 05:51 PM
 
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Well I wouldn't be able to act if she was watching though. She already said she that it bothers her so if I invite her to watch, then I will get self conscious about it, which will affect my acting for sure.
Then perhaps having her watch non-sex scenes might have a similar effect?
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Old Today, 06:34 PM
 
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Speak to her about the sex scene. Her professionalism, etc. Maybe, the lady has a life of her own. A husband, kids,etc.
Oh yeah, we talked about it and she said it was awkward for her to and we went over boundaries and how it should be done and all, if that's what you mean. I can't remember if she had a husband though or if she was single.

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Then perhaps having her watch non-sex scenes might have a similar effect?
What would watching non-sex scenes do?
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Old Today, 06:36 PM
 
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What would watching non-sex scenes do?
I think he's suggesting that if the sex scene is nothing, then her watching either sex or non-sex scenes should have the same effect on you. So you should be as nervous of her watching non-sex scenes. he can correct me if im wrong.
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Old Today, 06:39 PM
 
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What would watching non-sex scenes do?
It might still give her a sense that your profession is just that, a profession. Everyoneís there to do a job and get a paycheck. The pitfall is that she may wonder why you didnít invite her to a sex scene, but itís still a thought.

It may also be that youíll need to rethink your relationship.

Iím not there on the ground experiencing your relationship though, so just take this as stuff to mull, not as anything to immediately act upon.
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Old Today, 06:45 PM
 
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Oh okay I thought that porn may be worse, cause it's not a job, but just done for pleasure, where as I was doing this solely as a job. Plus with porn, it's sexual in the sense, that you are alone, where as with with a movie shoot, having a crew around shooting you kills any pleasure a person could have from it. Not that I have any pleasure from it, but if I did, it wouldn't happen cause it's a shoot. How's a person suppose to be aroused, when you have a director cutting and resetting takes every few seconds?



Speak to her about what?
Porn is not done for pleasure, that is a job and they are actors. There is also a full crew just as in any movie. Unless you are talking about internet stuff people make and post. Is the girl you are acting with naked? Do you touch her ?
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