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Old Yesterday, 10:58 AM
 
Location: Forests of Maine
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Originally Posted by ChiGal7 View Post
Change the locks now that he's gone. And don't call him anymore.
I agree.

Stop all communication with him.
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Old Yesterday, 11:00 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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You KNOW it's emotionally abusive. The real issue at this point is, what are you going to do about it. Are you going to take it anymore?
Exactly.

This really isn't about leaving the door unlocked. It's about a pattern of disrespect and meanness. Life is too short to put up with that.
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Old Yesterday, 01:51 PM
 
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As everyone else has said, block his number and have property management change your locks. Take back some of your power. And learn from this mistake. Pick someone who treats you with respect and kindness.
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Old Yesterday, 01:52 PM
Status: "Send HIM back- to Queens!" (set 22 days ago)
 
Location: Eureka CA
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You need to dump him yesterday.
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Old Yesterday, 01:54 PM
 
Location: Continental Europe
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I don't think he is the man for you.
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Old Yesterday, 02:04 PM
 
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Originally Posted by JrzDefector View Post
the relationship she is clearly unhappy with is adding to her depression

it's about someone who doesn't know how to engage with another person as a mature adult, and then plays games like "blocking" their significant other.
You might be correct.
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Old Yesterday, 05:58 PM
 
Location: Northern Wisconsin
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Run.
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Old Yesterday, 05:59 PM
 
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Originally Posted by SoCal_Native View Post
I'll play devil's advocate.
Leaving the door unlocked just could be a simple mistake. It happens.
Also, it isn't uncommon for people to argue occasionally.
It's possible your relationship is perfectly healthy.
BUT you did mention you are depressed. Is it possible THAT is 90% of the problem?

My parents were married 56 years and only had one fight - but that fight lasted 55 years.
I thought the OP mentioned that the "boyfriend" was depressed?

Besides, if it was just a simple mistake, then why is he downplaying it?

But you're right, the depressed, gaslighting boyfriend is 90% of the problem.
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Old Today, 05:24 AM
 
Location: Minnesota
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This is so typical. He wants to say, I'm breaking up with you but is immature and can't. So is being as ugly and disrespectful as possible, he wants you to say the words, I'm breaking up with you.
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Old Today, 06:18 AM
 
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This is so typical. He wants to say, I'm breaking up with you but is immature and can't. So is being as ugly and disrespectful as possible, he wants you to say the words, I'm breaking up with you.
Ding ding dingówe have a winner.
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